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Bridezilla Moments - Poll

Have you had any bridezilla moments?  It can happen during planning, or for the married ladies at the rehearsal/ceremony/wedding.

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    edited December 2011
    None that I can think of..

    Although my mom would say I was a bridezilla throughout the planning process. In reality, it was me telling her I appreciated her input, but that DH and I were going to be doing things the way WE wanted them to be done. So was notsohappy.
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    ButtonsPepperButtonsPepper member
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    edited December 2011
    My flowers, at the florst. The day before my wedding. They were NOT what I wanted, not what I ordered, any of it. I had a moment. But I'm still pissed, so I don't know if that was bzilla of me, or if they were just crappy and not what I asekd for and I have a valid reason for being upset.
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    edited December 2011
    I had two moments:

    1. H's goddaughter was supposed to be our flower girl.  Her father (one of our GMs) couldn't get his crap together to make sure she could come (parents aren't together so he had to clear it with mom), had a dress, etc.  About 2 months before the wedding I told H that we were cutting her out of the ceremony because I was already spending money for her to be there, but we weren't sure she would show up, and I just didn't want to deal with it.  So yeah, I cut a 6yr old out of our wedding party!

    2. After planning 99.99% of the wedding myself, we get to the rehearsal the night before the wedding and all of a sudden everyone has an opinion!  I had arranged for the florist to decorate our gazebo a certain way, and had it all planned out for who would stand where, when the coordinator (not mine, but that's a diff story), pastor and my mom wanted to suddenly direct people all over the place.  My MOH and DH both looked scared because they thought I was going to explode.  I had to firmly tell them that this is the way I want it, the way I planned it, and how it was going to be. period.  I had a serious WTF is going on moment.

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    edited December 2011
    I was just thinking about this the other night.... I was really calm and go-with-the-flow the entire wedding day.  However, I did have one minor conniption.  The introductions into the reception.  We had been planning for MONTHS to have Michael Jackson's "The Way You Make Me Feel" be played as everyone entered...same song for parents, bridal party, and us.  Every time we heard the song, we would talk about how we envisioned it happening, etc.  It was one of those little things I was really, really excited about.

    The bandleader was awesome, but I think he was a little annoyed that I had a DOC and that I was super on top of things too. I guess he's used to calling the shots.  So I never saw his timeline.  Fast forward to everyone standing outside the ballroom and the band starts playing some random song and introduces the parents.  I'm like "this isn't the song. This ISN'T THE SONG!"  Then they stop and start playing Beyonce's Crazy in Love and introducing the bridal party.  At that point I'm sort of screeching "why aren't they playing the song??"  If I could have stopped time, gone up to the band, requested they play the one song for all the intros, rewound time, and started over, I would have.

    They did play our song for our intro, but it was too fast to really grasp what the song was.  Oh well. Honestly, SOOOO not a big deal at all.  But that was my one Bridezilla moment of the day.
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    Jesster153Jesster153 member
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    edited December 2011
    cara-- that is really funny bc the SAME thing happend to us (no shock there since we have the same band hahaha)

    We wanted Jennifer Lopz 'Do it Well' (inside joke with our bridal party) and he was all 'yea- of course! great song!' and we were all so excited for that song...and then our entrances started....not JLo.

    Apparently he's a little anal with the intro songs... :-P
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    a.lemma4a.lemma4 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_bridezilla-moments-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:cecb03af-6ea9-4c1d-b13d-36755444fac9Post:6f0b8ec7-4699-4154-aa6c-3dd6885ffec7">Re: Bridezilla Moments - Poll</a>:
    [QUOTE]None that I can think of.. <strong>Although my mom would say I was a bridezilla throughout the planning process. In reality, it was me telling her I appreciated her input, but that DH and I were going to be doing things the way WE wanted them to be done. So was notsohappy.
    </strong>Posted by Madam A[/QUOTE]

    This is my <u>exact</u> situation. My mom has so much to say about EVERYTHING and I'm always telling her "it's our wedding, things are going to be done our way." She hasn't said anything for a while. I guess she gets the point. I'm tired of trying to accomodate everyones wishes. It's our damn day!

    Sheesh, kind of turned into a vent....
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    edited December 2011
    none yet, but its only been 1.5 months :)
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_bridezilla-moments-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:cecb03af-6ea9-4c1d-b13d-36755444fac9Post:c8a9f0c9-8289-48f5-81b4-0667464bb1a4">Re: Bridezilla Moments - Poll</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridezilla Moments - Poll : This is my exact situation. My mom has so much to say about EVERYTHING and I'm always telling her "it's our wedding, things are going to be done our way." She hasn't said anything for a while. I guess she gets the point. I'm tired of trying to accomodate everyones wishes. It's our damn day! Sheesh, kind of turned into a vent....
    Posted by a.lemma4[/QUOTE]

    If I could give you one piece of advice as an old married lady, it would be to stick to your guns. I am SOOOO glad we did and everything worked out just fine. Ironically enough, I was the one telling my mom a few weeks out to RELAX and that everything would work out perfectly and we would have a beautiful day!
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    edited December 2011
    One more little moment.... I decided at the very very very beginning of planning (over a year out) that I wanted Johnson's popcorn for our favors.  DH agreed and thought it was good.  My mom kept trying to convince me to do wine bottles because she thought they were classier than popcorn.  I didn't care what was classy because I wasn't trying to impress anyone, and I wanted the damn popcorn.  In the end, since I was ordering/paying for the favors I got my popcorn and slapped a label on those suckers.

    And when I dropped all my stuff off at the reception site early, I told the coordinator that I wanted the favors out at dessert time... not on the escort card table, nor at the place settings and he gave me side eye.  It worked out perfectly setting them out with desserts because they weren't in the way, didn't get forgotten, etc.
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    a.lemma4a.lemma4 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the advice A! I'm working on standing my ground when it comes to decisions :-)
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    edited December 2011
    Jess - that's really funny!  I think Troy likes being in charge and does things his way.  Which sucks when it goes against what they client wants.
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    FutureMrsTCTFutureMrsTCT member
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    edited December 2011
    Not yet, but I'm a bit anal rentive when it comes to things. I kind of want to help set up things the day of. Why - b/c I'm a control freak...So while I haven't had mine, I can say that I might. I'm going to try and release the control of some things, but if I do it'll be via a detailed plan that is given to everyone. Although even in all my Type A-ness - I don't think I'd be anything close to the Bridezilla stereotype we're all used to - i.e. those crazy a$$es on WE tv!
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    edited December 2011
    I had a few bridezilla moments. It was mainly between DH and my parents because they drove me bonkers.  I also had a HUUUGE bridezilla moment with my baker because she is an absolute moron. Make that many bridezilla moments when it came to my baker.

    And really early in the morning, the day before the wedding, my mom tell me that my grandfather's 8th sister was yelling at my parents for "allowing" me to have a wedding that I want. That my parents should've "made" me have a traditional Vietnamese wedding. So that morning my mom told me I had to go to each table and greet everyone which I did not want to do because it took too much time. My parents and I had already agreed that I wasn't going to do it and now I had to. So I was pissed, had to go find a coarse, hungover, at the time fiance (it was his bachelor party the night before) and had a crying session.
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    Amerbutt81Amerbutt81 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think I was pretty good throughout most of it.  I can remember two moments.

    The first one was when our DJ called to inform us that he was going ton a two week vacation to Japan and wouldn't be able to meet with us until the Wednesday before the wedding.  OH, and PS.. he was leaving tomorrow. I was on the night shift, and I wanted both of us to meet with him, so I arranged my schedule to go in late.  When I suggested  a place to meet, he told me that it was "inconvinient" for him because he lived in North Jersey.  

    I went ballistic on him.  I told him how DARE he say that to me after dropping  this scheduling bomb on me and after I rearranged MY schedule to met with him.  I told him I have 5 other friends getting married who haven't picked DJs yet, and that I was a very active participant on theKnot.  I  think I even said something about him only bat mitvahs for the rest of his career.  Then I hung up on him and called his boss. 

    I also had a little meltdown at the rehearsal dinner.  It was like 1000 degrees that Friday, and people were asking me questions I didn't know the answer to.  After the rehearsal I tried to check into my hotel room, and I spent 30 minutes at the desk trying to figure out why we didn't have a room.  Then my neice was hanging all over me.

    When I finally got to the dinner (45 minutes late, thank you Normandy Farm) I sat in a corner and demanded everyone leave me alone for 20 minutes.  I think I was just so overwhelmed by the situation, I just needed a little time to sort my thoughts.
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    edited December 2011
    Amer--good on you for standing up to the DJ.  A lot of times I feel like some people who are in the business of weddings take advantage of brides and grooms... and it's just not fair.

    So far I haven't had any real Bridezilla moments... except for when I was going to drop our church.  Gzilla really wanted to get married at this church because it was his grandfather's church and they were really close.  And we DIDN'T want to get married at his parent's parish.  The nun that basically runs the whole church was being absolutely ridiculous and I wanted nothing to do with her or the church.  But now that I've started cantoring regularly at mass, I'm her new best friend.  And since we started actually planning with our priest, it's been great. (except for when he told us that he wanted us to do landscaping outside of the church because a very well-to-do Delaware family brought in their own landscaper last summer and it looked really nice...)

    My mother had a great Bridezilla moment at her wedding though.  Her and my dad had a band... and they requested that the band learn "Longer Than" by Dan Fogelburg.  They NEVER learned it.  My mother has no idea what she danced to at her own wedding.  She was so upset that she cried the entire time and then ripped the band leader a new one.
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    edited December 2011
    Hmmm.  I think the only bridezilla moment I had was when I went to try on dresses.  I went to one shop, and they made my dad (who had a stroke and cannot stand for very long) wait standing in the front of the shop, because "ladies were changing in the back".  I was the only lady back there!  Plus, there were curtains on the changing rooms, so what's the big deal.  It's not like my dad was there to sneak a peak.  It was the first store I went to, and it was just not fun.  I complained to the lady, and she was like, this is our policy.  It ruined my interest in dress shopping.
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    edited December 2011
    Amerbutt, how did it turn out with the DJ? I am trying to choose a DJ now and I am so nervous that something like that will happen! Would you recommend the company? If you wouldn't, can you PM me what company it was so I know to avoid that company! Thanks!
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    edited December 2011
    I refused to invite one of DH's friends, who he wasn't talking to much anymore, but this guy had turned into a major addict and his ex was one of my BMs, and he would've started something between them.  The guy called at midnight when he figured out that he wasn't invited complaining to DH.  I was asleep when he called, but I could hear him yelling at DH about it so it woke me up.  Needless to say, we no longer talk to him.  Dh wanted to invite him after that, but I put my foot down.

    The morning of I had a major panic attack.  They started construction outside my apartment which was next to the church we got married at and were taking our outside pictures at.  Mind you they started at 6am!!!  I was supposed to sleep in some ...  then I check my email and see the my make up artist had to cancel because work called her in, and she's not supposed to do things on the side, so she couldn't explain why she needed off that day.  She did send someone else, but I was totally bummed because I had my trial with her and talked to her a lot about the make up and she had the make up.  The other girl did fine, but didn't have all the same stuff, so it was not exactly what I wanted but it turned out fine.

    I also had a ton of family drama with my dad's side of the family, since he was not giving me away.  They thought if the threaten not to come to the wedding I would cave.  I didn't cave and they didn't come.  Saved me some money though because it was like 8 people that didn't come.

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    edited December 2011
    I didn't really have any Bridezilla moments.  I did a lot of crap talking in my head though. 

    I was pretty pissed when DH's family didn't attend the rehearsal at the church.  Then at the wedding, they didn't stand with us for the receiving line.  I was like "where's your parents?"  DH was more pissed than I was though.  He was ticked b/c we had to greet a bunch of his parents friends that we didn't even know.  I think DH mentioned it to his dad later and FIL was like "I didnt know".  DH's response:  "That's why you were supposed to be at the rehearsal".  They were too worried about getting to the dinner early and that's why they didn't show. 

    I was also peeved when IL's OOT guests were at the rehearsal dinner.  No one bothered to ask me if I had any family in from out of town.  I had 2 people I would have wanted to invite.  I think my mom was a little disturbed about this as well.  I specifically remember asking MIL prior about OOT guests and she said it wasn't necessary b/c it wasn't the night before the wedding.  I didn't flip on anyone though.  I did discuss this with DH though afterwards and he agreed. 

    There was one more incident at chuch with MIL.   In short, she was directing the photographer after I already asked the photographer for specific pics.  That did not make me happy.
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