I don't know if my marriage will be "valid"
We met with the priest again yesterday. We have an ongoing saga that started when we requested our baptismal certificates. We planned everything to get married in the Byzantine church that FI grew up in. The problem is that when we ordered our records, it turns out that both of us are Roman Catholic. And that a Byzantine priest is not allowed to marry us. Two months ago at our meeting he said we need a dispensation. The priest who handles that was on vacation at the time, but when he came home the priest contacted him. That was wrong. We need something else that begins with a "d." And I can't remember what it's called. Delegation? Can anyone help with that?Anyway, I asked the priest what was involved. He said he writes our local Roman diocese and parish priest to ask for permission to marry us, since we're "under his jurisdiction." The priest said it should come through in time, and that the biggest hold up is that it might sit on someone's desk for a bit. I know the church and how paperwork goes. There are posts all the time about 2 year annulments. I'm terrified.So I asked him worst case scenario. He says that he would be allowed to sign the license, but that our wedding wouldn't be valid in the eyes of the church. So I would have a big sham liturgy. Our wedding is in 89 days. I'm freaking out. Does anyone have any experience with this other "d" word that escapes me? Is 89 days a feasibly time period, or is this something that takes a year? I'm terrified and haven't even told our parents because they will go into freak out mode.
This discussion has been closed.