Stats: I'm Catholic (actually work for a Catholic church as a secretary). FI is raised Catholic, went to Catholic school...now agnostic. Has no time for religion or Church, and doesn't care to actually have it be a part of his life. Has no problem raising our children Catholic or marrying in the Church.Tonight is night 3 of our four-Friday pre-cana program, and I'm burned out. Each week we've gotten in a huge argument on the way back. In the time we dated before we got engaged (over a year), we'd come to grips with our religion and we were okay with agreeing to disagree. Pre-cana opened up a huge can of worms (so it seems) and both of us are having problems with it.FI thinks it's ludicrous that we've been given pamphlets that say things like the Pill causes abortion and that any sexual position besides missionary is a sin (I don't know who came up with these, but in my entire life of being Catholic I've never read anything like this), and says that if this is my idea of faith, then he wants no part of it. At the same time, I disagree with a lot of what is going on, which makes me question my faith, especially when I was told by no less than two people that if I don't believe what they're saying at pre-cana, then I'm not really Catholic and I'm just pretending.So now I'm fighting with FI, and wondering if it's true, and I'm really just a "fake" Catholic. Having faith issues and relationship issues is making me physically sick, as is the idea of going to another pre-cana meeting and feeling like I'm a terrible person yet again.I'm sorry if this is the wrong place for this, or if I'm really just...I don't know. Shooting in the dark. I just never expected this. I thought pre-cana would bring us together. I feel like it's only made our differences more evident and caused more issues.
Books read in 2012: 21/50