EEK!!!!

mica178

We're filling out paperwork to get married in the Catholic church, and it turns out that while my fiance is a CONFIRMED Presbyterian, his parents apparently did NOT have him BAPTISED.  I mean, he went through years of Christian schooling and went through the process of confirmation, how did no one notice that he wasn't baptised?

All the paperwork asks for baptism date.  Can my unbaptised but confirmed fiance and I get married in the church, or is he going to have to get officially baptised?  I'm freaking out because we just found out about this now, so it's too late for RCIA before our wedding.  Does the Catholic church baptise adults without RCIA?

Obviously I'll need to talk about this with my priest, but as I dont' want to bother him with my personal issues right before Easter, I thought I'd throw this bone out to you mini-experts!

Thanks in advance!

agapecarrie

A Catholic can marry someone of any faith, baptized or not in the faith. It won't be considered a sacrament if he isn't baptized, but merely a valid natural marriage.

In order to be baptized Catholic, though, that means one is ready to convert and commit to the church. This takes some preparation, with few exceptions. (Exceptions being someone who has studied on their own, can show deep knowledge of the faith, health issues, etc). Receiving sacraments require some sort of formation.

The easiest way would be to talk to the priest immediately, do not wait on this. There has to be an extra permission from the bishop for disparity of cult. This happens all the time so it should be simple.

At any point that your fiance decides to be baptized, no matter what faith, your marriage will immediately become a sacrament.

Many protestant faiths don't keep great records of baptisms...some don't consider it a bigger deal that an altar call so its done without any formation at all-  make sure that he really hasn't been baptized first- because there may not be a record of it

JMU_Bride09

I would tell your FI to talk with the people at the church were he was confirmed...maybe he was baptised as Carrie said.  Or, if he wasn't, maybe they or another Presbyterian church would be able to baptize him before your wedding.  GL!

Calypso1977

if he doesnt plan on converting at some point, i'd try to have him get baptized presbyterian since that's his faith.

if he plans on converting to catholicism at a later date or is at least thinking about it, then i'd have him hold off so he can just be baptized once, Catholic.