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Is anybody doing "in memory of" at the ceremony?

I am wondering what people are doing/did (if anything) in memory of those friends/family that have passed away at the ceremony. 

At our reception, we thought of putting their pictures on a table with their names. While this is seems like a good idea for the reception, what, if anything, should I do during the ceremony? 
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Re: Is anybody doing "in memory of" at the ceremony?

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    edited December 2011
    In our programs we wrote "Here in spirit and in our hearts"  and listed their names. FI didn't want to do memory candles or draw a lot of attention to it.   At the reception we have thought about doing just like what you said and putting pics on a table. 
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    lburkey21lburkey21 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're listing the names on a pages in our program. Hadn't thought about doing anything at the reception yet. Maybe just a candle and a single flower for each person on a table with a simple poem. We'll see. But definitely names in the program
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    mswood1977mswood1977 member
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    edited December 2011

    We are having a memorial candle set up in front of the first pew at our church for my mother.  My father and I will light it after he walks me up the aisle.  We are not having it announced while we are lighting it what we are lighting or why, but it is noted in our program.

    We are having a wedding mass so during the  General Intercession/Prayer of the Faithful, we also included this as one of the prayers:

    For those who have died:  especially, Brides’s mother, Jane Doe, Groom’s uncle James Smith, and other members of the Doe and Smith families, that they live in happiness with God, enjoying forever what eye has not seen, ear has not heard and heart has not dreamed.We Pray to the Lord.
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    edited December 2011
    All of those are really nice ideas. But we decided to just mention them at the back of our program. I think you can really do whatever you are comfortable with.
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    edited December 2011
    I hadn't thought of doing this. thank you for posting this. I'll make sure I put together a list (lots of people have passed in my family and FI's) and get that to my sister who is making the programs.
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    edited December 2011
    You're welcome mcdol. 

    Thanks everybody those are great suggestions. 
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    edited December 2011
    We did a mention in the program, and also added an intention in the Prayers of the Faithful:

    "For all those who have died, especially [Gulfcoaster's mom] and [Mr.Gulfcoaster's sister and grandpa], may they enjoy eternal rest and happiness in Christ, and may we one day join them rejoicing at the heavenly wedding feast of the eternal and spotless Lamb, Jesus Christ.  We pray to the Lord."
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    edited December 2011
    Many people where I am from do a special flower vase on the alter, maybe you are looking for something a little more original though? Maybe you could dedicate something after the mass (release of doves) or something to the loved ones you have lost?
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    edited December 2011
    I love the idea of including it in the prayer to the faithful. I am def doing this. We arent using programs.
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    edited December 2011
    Fl and I haven't talked about doing anything like this yet. I would love to do it for his grandpa who passed. We are getting married in the church that did this funral. he was a huge part of the family. Also my dad's dad as he was catholic too ( i didn't know him at all he died when i was 5).

    thanks for bringing this up! I will need to talk to fl to see what he would like to do!
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