there are some interesting threads taking place on Etiquette about staying home, versus working, etc. and the role that money plays and in particular the second income. got me thinking.
for those of us who practice NFP, i know we are supposed to use it to TTA only under certain circumstances. otherwise, we really should be open to life. i know that financial reasons (as well as psychological/physical reasons) are two of the primary motives for TTA that are "allowed" (cant think of the others at the moment). however, financial reasons can be somewhat subjective.
for example, i feel that my H and I could easily afford to feed and clothe 3 or 4 kids, and while our house would be a tad cramped, we could make do with kids sharing rooms, etc. but i feel at this point, we could not afford daycare for even just 1 child. staying home is not an option as it takes both of our incomes to make our mortgage (we live in metro boston and while our house is very small and simple, it wasnt cheap).
my sister is of the mindset that she would give up her house/mortgage and move to a cheaper rented apartment if it meant she could be home with her kids. not sure i agree with that, but those are her thoughts based on what she feels is best for her and her family.
we could also bite the bullet and simply live a life of debt, which we really dont want to do. are you "financially able", based upon church or god's standards to have kids if it means debt, since you have the means to get a credit card, and therefore an avenue for having kids even if it might not be the best?
i wish i had the kind of faith to believe that "god will provide" but i just don’t. I’m afraid to take that risk. what are everyone else's thoughts on this interpretation?