FI applied for a government job in a town up north (about a 10 hour drive from where we currently live). We're both starting out in our careers (I just graduated from nursing school) so I was willing to move and find a job up there, but then he didn't get the job he applied for. I got a phone call from a previous preceptor (someone I worked with during one of my school practicums) and he wanted me to come and work for his non-profit organization. It's my dream job as a community health nurse in a town near our city (it's a 45 minute commute for me). Well, fast forward 2 weeks after I started my job, and FI got a phone call from the government branch he applied to and they have an opening and offered him a job. It's not a job he can turn down... his current job is great, he works for an investigation and security firm (mostly false insurance claims and strike work). It's good pay, but it's on-call type of work so when he works he makes great money, but it can be months without work. This government job is full time, great pay, retirement and health benefits, and secure. But I don't want to give up my job, it's a job I thought I would have to work 10 years before I'd be in a position like this.
So... the consensus is that he's going to go, I'm going to stay, and as soon as he's out of his training/probation period he'll start trying for transfers. Our date is set for July 28, 2012 so we've set the deadline for a month or so before then, if he hasn't been able to transfer by then we'll have a discussion and one of us will have to leave out job and move to the other. We've also promised to be completely honest with each other, and if either of us are feeling strained in the relationship we'll make changes as we need to. Our careers are taking a front seat right now but our relationship ALWAYS has to be #1. We have also promised to meet in a town halfway between both our cities (5 hour drive for each of us) at least once a month but twice if we can. We'll drive Friday after work and then leave Sunday afternoon, so get two nights together.
I'm so sad but think it's the right choice for now. I'm a little scared because I've done long distance before with someone else and it was a disaster. The relationship was not a great one anyways, and I know FI and I have a solid relationship, but I just know that long distance isn't easy. Any of you ladies who have done it or are doing it, do you have any advice?