mom walking me down the aisle

yankschik

ok so my fiance and i are paying for our entire wedding ourselves.  i am the youngest and only daughter and granddaughter on both sides of my family.  honestly growing up, i took care of myself, have had a job since i was 14 and paid for everything myself, except my high school tuition.  the problem is i am catholic and had a child out of wedlock...my fiance and i moved in together and raise our daughter together as a family.  now in planning the wedding, my mother has decided to tell me that she is walking me down the aisle along with my father.  how do i let her know without hurting her feelings that i dont want her too?  i was never really close to my parents, and if anything, i want to walk with my daughter, any suggestions would be helpful.

nhlgirl34

Maybe find something else important for her to do? So she doesn't take it as leaving her out but you had other plans for her

bridalgal50

Perhaps you are such an "independant" type that you would consider walking down the aisle solo, meet your FI halfway down, then walk the rest of the way together. 

Your parents could still stand and answer the question :Who gives this woman...."

I would then suggest some sort of family-joining ceremony that includes your daughter.

vintagefix

Sadly, it will probably hurt her feelings no matter how you deliver it. I can relate with you with the whole not being close to your parents thing and now not knowing how to fit them in to the wedding.

I think I would just be honest and tell her that it is very meaningful to you and your daughter to walk together. I would be sure to honor your parents still. Your father could walk with your mother and wait for you at the alter and like pp said they could even still "give you away" if that is what YOU want to do.

I am not too familiar with Catholicism. Why is that a problem for you? Is it required that your parents walk you down the aisle or give the bride away for Catholics?