OMG! I should not be stressing about this!

abbey&josh

So, my bach party is one thing I did not think I'd have to stress about. However...my MOH and one of my bm's are apparently having an email war as to who is in charge! I am really trying not to get involved in this, but I feel bad. MOH is my sister and I think she should plan it. One of my bm's kind of likes to get credit for things and I think that is why she is trying to take charge. She's actually going to send out an email delegating jobs to everyone in the bridal party! Without talking to MOH! MOH is going to freak out! If anyone is going to "assign duties" I think it should be MOH. And they don't know each other that well, so I get stuck in the middle. I really don't know what to do!

kelklump

Dont fret- mine did the same thing. I have planned a ton of bach. parties myself and my friends all wanted to return the favor. I finally stepped in and delegated who was in charge of what. It has made life soo much easier. I ended up leaving the MOH in charge of invites and limo, the two others were given nights to host (mine is Friday and Saturday nights). Good luck- it will all work out.

vaughnar

Traditionally it is the MOH who plans it and she is also your sister. You mentioned the BM who wants to do it likes to do things to basically sign her name to them. I would say having more than one opinion on things is nice but only one person should be organizing (it can get confusing with details, etc). If you want to do this without hurting feelings maybe have your bridesmaids pick the afternoon activites (like a spa, pedi, mani) and have your MOH pick dinner and night out or something so everyone feels involved and gets something. Or just tell the BM who is doing this that your sister is planning it and would like her input but not organizing (which might hurt your BM).GL!

stosha1

HAHA. Women. We always want to be in charge of something, don't we???I say just stay out of it and let them fight amongst themselves. I'm totally a passivist about stuff like that. I would send bulk email out and say GROW UP and FIGURE IT OUT. Consider yourself lucky. I don't even get a bach party. My MOH is a SITM (stick in the mud)

abbey&josh

Stosha that sucks! I guess I should be grateful that they want to do it! I think my sister let bm know in a fairly tactful way through an email last night. Thanks girls!