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Bridal Shower Invite List

econner42econner42
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in Ohio-Cincinnati
We are having a small wedding with about 120 guests at max and there are a lot of people that I would like to invite, but just can't due to space. Is it rude to invite the ladies not coming to the wedding to the bridal shower? I originally thought that it would be rude, but I also don't want them to feel left out of everything. Any thoughts are much appreciated! TIA!
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Re: Bridal Shower Invite List

  • jeremy.teresajeremy.teresa
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    edited December 2011
    You aren't supposed to invite anyone to the shower that isn't invited to the wedding as well.  But its all up to you.
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  • hrparkerhrparker
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    edited December 2011
    Any guest invited to a pre-wedding event is required by etiquette to be invited to the wedding. Everything is up to you, because it's your wedding, but I think most guests would find it rude to be invited to the gift-giving part of the festivities, but not to the actual nuptials.p.s.  120 is "small"??? 
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  • econner42econner42
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    edited December 2011
    Okay...we're on the same page here. I thought it was rude too, I just wanted to see if others had a different train of thought than what I was having. Thanks! - hrparker - yes, 120 is small for us considering what it could have been! FI knows a lot of people and FMIL wanted to invite everyone under the sun!!! :)
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  • jeremy.teresajeremy.teresa
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    edited December 2011
    Small is all relative to who its for.  Small for my brother was 300 people.  Small for my sister was 100.  Small for is about 50.
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  • kris10michellekris10michelle member
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    edited December 2011
    I had this same problem. I grew up in a small town about 45 minutes east of Columbus and my home church wants to throw me a bridal shower. We told them that we would not be able to invite all of the women at my home church to the wedding due to our size restraints and they said they didn't care, they had watched me grow up and wanted to throw me a wedding shower. ::shrugs:: So yes, it goes against what I think is proper etiquette, but I warned them. PS 150 is small for us as well. FI is one of six siblings, with 16 nieces and nephews. His dad is one of seven. So FI family alone takes up most of the guest list, and then we still have to invite my family and some of our friends! So it might not be a "small" wedding, but any smaller and we would be cutting out key people.
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