I need a little help and some thoughts on the Bridal shower. I'm only having one and I don't know when. The big day is 2/20, and while I don't want it too close to the wedding, I also don't want it too close to Christmas because of money and travel situations and don't people travel for Thanksgiving? Most of the people coming to the wedding live in or around Philadelphia and the wedding shower is going to be in Harrisburg. It's less than a 2 hour drive west on the turnpike, but -- I'm just trying to make things easier for most people (I'm trying to wean myself off of trying to please EVERYONE).