I'm not sure what I should do. I debated between 2 different girls for my MOH, and ended up picking the one that I've been friends with longer. I am now starting to regret my decision. My MOH has a very "strong" personality, and I am the opposite. I have never been good at standing up for myself because honestly, girls with such strong personalities intimidate me sometimes! I just don't like starting fights, so I feel like it's better to just take it rather than arguing about things, but I can't deny that the things she has been saying are hurting my feelings. Please let me know if I'm overreacting, or if you have any advice on what I should do.
First, she asked me how much my parents were giving me for the wedding. I was caught off guard with this question, but I told her anyway. The amount is definitely not small, but my MOH replied... "Is that even going to be enough?!!" She went on to ask me my budget for other specifics such as flowers, invitations... and when I said around $300 for invitations she said I won't ever be able to do that. This made me second guess everything that I had budgeted so far.
Second, I found b-maids dresses that everyone loved. I sent my MOH an email with a link to the dress and she also loved it, but her first question was, how much do these cost? (which is a reasonable question) I told her $200, and she wrote back with a long email saying that between the dress, bachelorette party and wedding gift that she might be paying around $400. She said... "is that not too much to be spending?" We are fresh out of college but she already has a very nice job. It just put me in a weird position because I don't want to force anyone to spend their money. Also, I don't understand how she can make a big deal about my parents not giving me enough money but complain about spending $400 on her best friend's wedding.
Finally, I think she tried to make me feel bad about the place I picked for our reception. We are having it at the Madison. She said that a co-worker that she recently met got married at the Madison last year, and she "picked her brain" about it. Then she said... "well, I probably shouldn't tell you what the girl told me about the Madison...." Of course she ended up telling me because I think that was her plan all along. She said "The girl told me that the food was just 'ehhh', the alcohol was 'ehhh... not strong enough', and even though the staff was great, she definitely would have picked a different reception hall if she had more money. But you probably don't care that much if people like the food". I told her that's the first I heard about anyone not liking the Madison, and that was all I could come up with to say at that time. But I'm still upset about it! At first, I honestly thought she was joking because the way she said it sounded so mean... but apparently she was being serious.
Sorry that this is so long... I really feel like I should talk to her, but I don't know if I should because I don't want to start anything. Any advice would be great!