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no honeymoon?!

My fiance and I plan on getting married next yr in Las Vegas. I am trying to do the planning myself as I don't really have family. i am really wanting to go on a short 4 day honeymoon afterwards, which we had spoken about previously and agreed on Hawaii. Now he says he doesn't want a honeymoon at all, and the trip to Las vegas is enough, even though my out of town family and his family will all be there. I told him we need our privacy, and a nice vacation for just him and I, but he is insisting NO. I do not know what to do. I really wanted a honeymoon, it is a once in a life time thing.... He says he doesn't want to waste the money, and I do not feel it is a waste at all. I am heart broken.
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Re: no honeymoon?!

  • Actually I agree with him on not going to Hawaii.  It's a long way to go for just 4 days. Can't you find a place closer to spend a few days at?






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  • My last marriage was a DW to Vegas with about 30-35 friends and family, and we spent a couple of days in Vegas and then did, I think, 5 days in Rivera Maya, Mexico. The entire trip, including air and hotel, was only around $1300 for both of us, I think, and it was a nice little getaway. Mexico is a lot more cost effective than Hawaii, a shorter flight (Cabo, for example, is only a couple of hours from Vegas... I think just 2'ish?), and still gives you that nice beachy relaxation vibe.
  • Extend your time in Vegas. It's big enough and busy enough that you can avoid anyone else there you know very easily. There's nothing wrong with honeymooning in the place you got married.
  • If really want to do it its not "ridonculous" (or however thats sp?!) at all. (some people on here are so rude) Have you thought about going over to Cali and staying on the coast someplace? Thats probably a half days to a days drive. Not sure how you feel about grand canyon but thats close to vegas also. Or also the suggestion about extending your stay to Vegas. Maybe after people leave, switch to a new hotel, restarting your vaca. I agree you can also do MX for cheap also and flight should be cheap.
  • I agree with the pp it is definitely not "redonkulous" to be upset that your FI is trying to say no to a HM. You only get one HM, but you can take other vacations any time. If it's important to you, then it should be important to him. But, I do agree with your FI, Hawaii can definitely be expensive and I don't think it's worth the long flights and the money to just go for 4 days. Try checking out other options, such as others mentioned--Mexico.. they have a ton of great priced AI's.. or going to Napa Valley in CA.. Lake Tahoe.. just don't give up especially since it's something you really want. You are right that you should have privacy and a nice getaway that is just the two of you. Not having a HM doesn't mean you aren't married, but it is definitely something most couples look forward to after saying their vows. Just sit down and talk with him and let him know how you really feel without starting controversey. Communication is so key when entering marriage.
  • Your feelings are absolutley valid and you should have a honeymoon if you want one! Nobody should make you feel differently! If Hawaii isn't in the budget, California has some great options and isn't far from Vegas. Maybe thats something you two can look into. :)
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  • well-you havent told us your financial situation. if it would start the marriage off in the red-then i agree with him. if he's just being a jerk and not giving any further explination then i'd think about working seriously on your communication skills before even thinking of getting married. but lets be frank here. you don't NEED a vacation. you dont NEED a hm. you WANT one-there's a difference.

     

  • I think you may need to have a conversation with your man before this wedding. Are all vacations a waste of money, or is it just because you only have 4 days? I agree with other PP that if all you have is 4 days you might want to go some place a little more local then Hawaii, but at the same time you need a honeymoon! I hear there is tons to do in Vegas.  Maybe you could rent a car and go on a day trip to see Hoover Dam and other local things.  
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  • I can think of two solutions:Scale down the honeymoon. After the wedding, maybe drive to California (LA, San Diego, San Francisco, or the central coast wine areas like Santa Barbara all make for great trips) or Arizona (Sedona is beautiful, or you can go to Tuscon or the Sun Valley), or even Santa Fe (one of my favorite cities!). Maybe just stay in Vegas a few days more after your friends disperse and check out the Hoover Dam or Death Valley, if you're into that?Otherwise, why not save up for a belated honeymoon to Hawaii, either in 6 months or on your first anniversary or something?
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