Anyone let the man do all the planning?

tlbattaglia

The fiance said he'd like to do all the planning for the honeymoon.  And, I'm thinking about letting him do it.  He says he wants to surprise me, and wouldn't tell me where we're going till the day of.

I think it'd be kinda fun to have that as a surprise.  I told him three guidelines: all inclusive, sunny warm beach, and then the budget once we figure it out. 

I trust him enough to do well with this.  Has anyone else done this?  Suggestions?  Ideas?

Thanks!

Chasity08

I think it's super awesome! However...I'm a control freak. So I am doing the honeymoon planning. haha. =]

ambcar16

totally!  I love surprises, but would also drop hints about places you WOULD NOT want to go to!
They do need a little training right?

bangbangshakeit

I think that's an awesome idea -- Its good you gave a few guidelines, that way you can prepare what to pack and it won't differ from island to island rather than say, greece or italy! HAHA

kaesha

My husband would do an awesome job - if your FI is good at planning, then I say go for it.

eshevenell

I did this to some extent - I know where we're going (French Polynesia), the hotels we're staying at (on Tahiti and Moorea), etc., but my FI planned the whole thing and booked the whole thing, all the way down through excursions and restaurants we want to try.  He is great at planning and travel research.  He waited WAY longer than I was comfortable with to book things, but we did end up getting a great deal and it's going to be great.  If you think your FI can handle it, do it!  Trust me, with all the details you'll be handling for the wedding, you'll be glad not to worry about that too!  I did do things like making sure our passports were in order, and I'll be confirming our plane tickets and hotel reservations, because he may forget to... but he's done the hard work!

Victoriatx

a friend of mine let her husband plan it all and she loved it! They went to Jamica.

jhulme

my FI said he gets to pick the location because i picked the location for the honeymoon haha i think thats fair and no matter where we go ill be happy because ill be married and with him :-)

lweidenhammer

Let him surprise you!

My fiance is planning our honeymoon since we are both stationed in different states because of the military and can't do a lot of the planning together. I totally trust him to do a great job!! 

Victory34

Yes!  I agree with letting the Fiance to plan the HM.  Especially if he is trustable with planning things.  I trust mine to make it special.  Besides a bride has so much on her plate that one less thing is better

KaylaHolbrook

I did and it was awesome! I felt bad because he wanted to help out so much, but much of the theme revolved around the flower beading on part of my dress.  Letting him plan it was awesome, one less thing to think about and he feels like he's contributing quit a bit.

banoski

I'm letting my fiance plan the honeymoon. Afterall, I am planning everything else. And he is really excited about it!

donnaoneill

The honeymoon is pretty much what FI is excited about so I let him pick the place and the hotel and any other details he wanted to take on. For me, if he's interested in any wedding planning, I let him do it. 

barbbhoww

my DH picked the place, location .. everything.  it was his gift to me and it was amazing.  he told me about it, though. 

JanieInSkytown

My FI is planning it all. We discussed briefly at the beginning of our engagement what kind of things I'd like, but if it doesn't end up being that, I know it will still be lovely. It's nice waiting to be surprised, and I'm not worried that he will pick something that I'd hate-- we know each other better than that, for goodness sake, we're about to get married.

lgoldberg43

My fiance is surprising me---even packing for me as I dont find out until we are at the airport. It actually has worked out well--I am so busy with everything the day of it is so nice to know that is being taken care of and in good hands. All I know is that I need a passport and a bathing suit, so it cant be bad . I would definitely let your fiance do this--it has been a great experience thus far.  In 40 days I can tell you otherwise

tlbattaglia

Thanks for the input, everyone! 

I am going to go through with it and let the FI do it all.  I hope he can actually keep it a secret till the last minute. I'm getting even more excited about it.  

Traceyd14

My FI wants to do the same - including the surprise part - but I'm scared to let him.  I'm a bit of a control freak and while I would love to have him plan the whole thing, he isn't the most internet savy so I am afraid he won't find the best deals or be able to look at options that he won't think of.  I love him and trust him but sometimes he sets his sights on one thing without exploring options or thinking of potential pros vs. cons (hurricane seasons/rainy seasons).  That's part of what makes us work though so I can't complain.  I did tell him he can pick the location but I get veto power if I have a good reason.  That's kind of how the wedding planning is going too, I am picking out almost everything, but he gets to veto if he doesn't like something.

tlbattaglia

That sounds like a fair way to do things.  And, it sounds like it works well for you. 

I told the FI that he has full control over it now.  He's super excited about.  I kept giving him ideas on places to look...and finally he said we need to stop talking about it if I want it to be a surprise.  So, I guess it's going to be a little harder than expected to give up control.  However, I have now done it. 

Luckily he is internet savvy.  And he knows places to check for deal and/or people to ask for assistance.  I'm super excited about it!

mcornelissen

My FI is doing the honeymoon. I didn't want to know, wanted it to be a suprise. It slipped him, because he was so excited!

Mia2700

I was SUPER nervous about this idea when my Fiance came to me and said he wanted to plan the entire thing on his own, no list of don't want or anything - leave every detail up to him.. then I said, if I'm trusting you to be my husband, the least I can trust you with is the single most important trip of our lifetime, no pressure! lol

I just found out the details this past weekend; Moorea, French Polynesia.  11 days.  We leave the evening after our wedding.  Staying in a hut over the water.  Dinner on a private boat at sunset.  ATV trip up the mountain to watch the sunset over the island. Native dance lessons.  He said he planned events for 5-6days and the rest are just for "honeymooning "

I couldn't be happier with what he planned, and he couldn't be more proud to tell everyone what an amazing trip he has planned for us!

So I stand firm, let him take the ropes and surprise you!

Best Wishes!

vegasgroom

I'm doing our honeymoon planning and most of the wedding stuff because FI is in her 1st year of residency after med school and working constantly; I'm no planner but I'm making it work somehow lol.

tlbattaglia

That's awesome! I'm keeping my fingers crossed, but I also trust that it'll turn out perfect.