Kids on the Honeymoon

dblocksgirl

What do you think?  Its goign to be difficult to not take our children with us. And honestly if we are leaving the country I dont feel right about not have the kids, god forbid anythign happened.

  We have two kids.  And we really have never had a family vacation.


Is it ok that we have a familymoon.  after the wedding.

and anysuggestions for a destination? Im thinking we will stay in the states due to the cost.

thanks.

AdeleDazeem

My parents traveled abroad several times without my sister and I.  We stayed with grandma and they got to have their time.  It was fine, but I can understand if you don't feel comfortable.

I would try to have a honeymoon for just the two of you, but if it is simply not possible, I would recommend Disney World for a familymoon!

droberts504

Did you consider a cruise where they have kid activities all day? Still some time for you two but also family time.

Wiscisbliss

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_kids-on-the-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:2fcbeaac-ebde-4f9b-b768-a281fb65f8dfPost:ad866f2d-4733-4648-b735-7180ad171528">Re: Kids on the Honeymoon</a>:
[QUOTE]Did you consider a cruise where they have kid activities all day? Still some time for you two but also family time.
Posted by droberts504[/QUOTE]

<div>If you did a family trip, I would definitely do something that had childcare/kids activities so you could have some alone time.  </div>

Carla1019

I picked no. If the children start feeling sick all your attention will go towards catering to them. If you don't want to leave the country than I understand, stay in the States. But IMO, I think a honeymoon is meant for only the new husband and wife. You have the rest of your lives to have family vacations.

StephBeanWed61502

I think a cruise is a great idea - activities for the kids are usually included in their ticket price, so you and your new H will get some time to yourselves during the day while the kids go off to the kids' club activities, but you'll still have them with you.  Personally, I'm not sure I'd want little ones with my on my own HM, but I don't have any kids and neither does FI, so I can't say for sure how we'd really feel about it if we did. 

HobokensFury

Sorry I vote no. It's important for newly wed couples to have private time alone.

jemmini6

Personally, I would not consider it.  It was important to me that H and I had some alone time, and after the wedding, I was really looking forward to a vacation with just us.

If you absolutely must take the kids, then I'd agree with the cruise recommendation because you can have family and alone time. 

How old are the kids BTW?

alithebride

what do you mean 'difficult' for you to not bring the kids? i think if it was IMPOSSIBLE for you not to bring them then you have an answer-but 'difficult' I'd not bring them along. i mean are you going away for a month or longer? or someplace that's incredibly far (like the other side of the world)? other than that i say leaave them home.

SuMmErKuTiE

I'm sorry, but I feel that a honeymoon is important for a new husband and wife and they should be enjoying it together alone. Especially if they already have children, their lives are all about the kids at home. It'll be so nice to take a nice vacation where it's just the two of you to celebrate your new marriage.

You have the whole rest of your lives to take family vacations, you should make your honeymoon about just the two of you.

My husband and I's favorite hobby is traveling, and we plan on still going on 2 vacations a year like we enjoy now once we have a family. One will be with the kids and a family vacation and the other one will be just for us to explore the world and do a more adult/romantic vacation just the two of us while the kids are with their grandparents for the week.

My parents always seemed so refreshed and on cloud nine after returning home from a vacation that was just the two of them, and my brother and I stayed at a friends or our grandparents.

Katred08

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[QUOTE]I think it's important for the newly married couple to have some alone time after their wedding to relax and decompress. You could do a couple of nights at a bed and breakfast close to home and then hop on a cruise with the kids for the rest of the week.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

I think this is a great idea!  You could get a few days of alone time to relax, but then include the kids in a fun trip after that.  Best of both worlds.

jelenybeany

H and I had to delay our HM (We got married 9-3-11 and can't go until mid April) because we have a one year old. H's mother is awesome and has offered to care for the baby while we're away. The catch is, she's a teacher so we had to go over one of her school breaks. We got away for one night at a nice hotel the night of the wedding, they kept him over the weekend, and we get a whole week in April.

I understand what you mean about being worried. I'm a bit panicky myself. I know that MIL would throw herself in front of a bus for her only grandchild, and if he gets sick, he's in good hands.

Do you have someone you can leave them with?

If you don't, I would vote a Disneymoon with the kids, or a cruise if they're old enough for the kids club.

Magdala9

My aunt and uncle took their grandchildren to Disneyland so that their daughter (the children's mother) and her new husband could have some private time after the wedding. 

Summer2011Bride

I wouldn't consider it. I know many people who have children (young kids too) and travel frequently without them, even overseas, with no issues. Why do you feel you can't leave them? What do you think is going to happen while you're gone? Do you have family members like grandparents or aunts or uncles who couldd watch them, someone you trust and are comfortable with? It won't be likt you're leaving them with strangers.

I do think it's important for a husband and wife to get some time alone to start their marriage. This could be a long weekend at a local hotel or a trip across the world. I highly suggest going someplace just the two of you. If you are not comfortable with a long, far vacation, then stick closer to home and do a family vacay after.

sweetcanadian1979

We are having a familymoon but my son is 13. If we had young kids i would not do it. He is independant & trust worthy to go down to the arcade & pool by himself. We compromised & are doing my dream vacation (disney) for our honeymoon & his dream vacation for our 1st anniversary. That trip will be alone, this way we both get what we want. Being that my son is older & gaining a stepdad (his father has not been around since he was 1) it is important to include him for us. We got free dining so he is able to get food if he is hungry & we are not with him without him having to carry cash. 

It sounds like you have young kids, i would NOT go on my honeymoon with them. When will you & your husband to be get time to yourselves again? My fiance & i have been on many trips by ourselves already. Leave them with grandparents

MrsGandthebeag

No way jose.  Don't you want some alone time with your husband?

msowena

I like what pp's suggested about a mini trip close by and then extending the trip with the kids. But if I had to fully pick one or the other, I would say no kids... Unless you have a really sick kid or nobody you trust to watch them. I also don't have children yet... so there's that lol

sarilynnep

I had to vote no on this as well. A family vacation you can do at any time. A real honeymoon is only once. I'm not trying to be mean, but are there true logistical reasons for you not being able to leave your children or are you just having a hard time leaving them emotionally? If it's because you are having a hard time emotionally, I'm not trying to be mean, but really consider the importance of having just time for you and your husband. It's not often you will get a chance for it to be the two of you, and certainly the only chance for a honeymoon. My parents went on vacations without me once a year, sometimes overseas. I was perfectly fine and even enjoyed having them gone and being with the rest of my family and friends during that time. I actually looked forward to it, even at a very young age (3 to 5).

JDonahue90

I say "GO FOR IT!"... Only you know what is best for your family... FH and I have a 1 year old and we plan to take LO with us!! (By that time, he will be 2+). I am a SAHM, so I've become very attached to my son; and FH works a lot, so he enjoys coming home to me and LO. That's just what we want... I don't want to get him excited about the wedding, get him all dressed up, and then have to see Mommy and Daddy leave... Our honeymoon would be both of us missing our son. So we will have a family trip, and then maybe let LO stay at Grandmom's for a few days (in the future) and get to have Newlywed time!!