register for Honeymoon???

mbjines

Has anyone done this?? My mom and maid of honor are now planning my bridal shower, but my mom seems to think it is in very poor taste to do this. Has anyone else had any expereience with this??

Kmartella4

Just from reading the boards I can tell you that many knotties think it is tacky, and poor taste to do a Honeymoon registry. I am not against it or anyone that does it, but I personally would not have one for me.

pandasquishy

Your mother is right, HM registries are in very poor taste.  Also, think about this: if your mother thinks they're tacky odds are a lot of your other female relatives of her generation and older do, too.  You wouldn't want to offend them at your shower.

Showers are for tangible gifts, so HM registry cash wouldn't fit in there, anyway.

LaFemmeRousse

I agree with your mother that it is very tacky.  There are two main reasons:

1. The vast majority of "honeymoon registry" companies take a cut (like 2 % or 5%) of the money that guests put towards the trip.  This is just a big waste of money, and I'm sure guests would not be happy to find out that a portion of their gift went towards a company's bottom line when they could have just written you a check directly.

2. When the honeymoon registry is completed, the company will cut you a check for the amount that guests gave.  On the website, guests have options to "buy you a couple's massage" or "gift you a fancy dinner," but instead of just arriving to the honeymoon to enjoy these activities, you simply get a check for the total amount the guests gave, minus the commission fee.  This is misleading for guests, and it's also a roundabout way to simply ask for money from people, which is a big etiquette no-no and is quite rude.

emilyinchile

If your mom thinks it's tacky, don't do it. They're pretty controversial, and while some brides swear up and down that their guests genuinely don't find them rude (because you are, after all, registering for cash), if your mom is against them you can bet she won't be the only one of your guests who thinks that way.

mbjines

thanks so much for the tips. I guess mom is always right.