Rant about BM dresses...need some opinions!

PeachesKFG

So I'm not sure how to make the official decision on bridemaids dresses, and I am an indecisive person which does NOT help! My sisters (who are my MOHs) tried on a BM dress last weekend that they both like, and feel comfortable in. I'm glad they found something they both like, b/c their comfort is very important to me (they are both a bit self conscious and I want them to feel beautiful and comfy at my wedding). So I'm thinking we should go with this dress....

Now, my other 4 bridesmaids have not tried this dress on, but have seen a picture of it. I don't think they love the dress....I can tell by their reactions. But they keep saying  "whatever you want is fine with us." Should I just tell them that this is the one? And tell them to go ahead and order it? I sort of feel bad making the "final decision"  before the other 4 girls have a chance to try it on.....I want the other 4 BMs to feel like they have a say in the matter, but they keep telling me to do whatever I want.

And one other small dilemma - the dress that we like has a low V-cut in the back...so it's impossible to wear a normal bra, and the girls would need cups to be sewn in. My sisters are pretty busty - has anyone had experience with sewing in cups, and has it been supportive enough?

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I'd say as long as your sisters are comfortable then just go with that dress.  I've been in a ton of weddings as a BM and I've never had a say in which dress we wore.  I honestly didn't mind either...I would've worn whatever the bride asked me to.  Do any of your BMs have something they are really self conscious or sensitive about?  If not, then I wouldn't worry.  If one of them does then I would maybe talk to her separately and have her try on the dress to be sure she is comfortable.  In the end it's your decision and you should pick out what you like best and everyone should be supportive even if it wouldn't be their first choice. 

Carebear62584

Since your sisters are MOHs then why don't you have them wear that dress since they both like it and have the other bridesmaids choose a diff dress of the same color and designer. This way your sisters will stand out as being MOHs with a diff dress but still match the others in color. I was going to put my moh in the same dress but black instead of blue and she decided she wanted to match so I am giving her diff colored flowers than the other girls to have her stand out as moh.

markandlaura112

I only brought my sister (MOH) with me for BM dress shopping. We found a dress/style that we like and will bring the rest of the girls once we make a final decision.  It's really hard to please every girl, unless you are ok with them wearing different dresses.  

It's definitely ok to have all girls wear the dress your sisters like, especially since they are all telling you that whatever you pick is fine (they love you, they would tell you if they were completely against it...I know my girls would lol!)  However, like carebear said, if you are really worried about the other 4 BMs not liking the dress, you can pick a different one, from the same designer in the same color, so they still look uniform, but not exactly the same as your MOHs.

Don't stress too much though.  Your girls are in your wedding because they love you and want to support you.  Good luck! 

alexismurda

When i picked out my BM dresses I went with one of my BMs. We picked out one that we both liked and no one else said otherwise! I just told them where to go to order it! Your girls should be suppourtive of whichever one you pick! I'm in a wedding in May and the bride (actually the BM i went with to pick out BM dresses for my wedding) sent out options of dresses she liked and everyone had an opinion! I just basically told her the two i liked but said i'd go with whatever she picked, it's ultimately the brides decision! Don't forget that!

PeachesKFG

Thanks ladies! I guess I just needed a little bit of a push to make the decision here! I thought about this all morning....I know my BMs will wear whatever I want, so I guess I should just go ahead and decide...that's what they are telling me to do, anyways! I tend to over-think things...especially the bra issue. My mom said to me "you don't need to worry about the type of bra they will wear....they will find a way to make it work! Women have been coming up with different ways to support their boobs since the dawn of time!" She cracks me up

I'm going to tell the other 4 that they are welcome to try the dress on if they would like to, or they can just call in their measurements. They have all seen the dress and they had a chance to tell me if they hated it. No one said they hated it....so it's too late now! I'm going to go for it. I never included a picture of the dress in my original post...if anyone is interested in seeing it...this is it. I am going to order it in black.

markandlaura112

Wow, that is a beautiful dress!!  Your girls will look great! 

Mandafly84

That really is a beautiful dress!  I'll tell you right now though, the bra situation would bum me out.  I'm a natural D cup and low-back bras are soo uncomforable.  My boobies laugh in the face of sewn-in cups, which are good for nothing except the first 2 letters of the alphabet.

I agree with PPs, you're the bride, choose the dress you want.  But if your girls are D cups or bigger, expect some seriously restrained dancing at your reception lol.

rswan412

I agree with PP...what you say goes! I would ask the girls to come in and try it on though before making them order it....I wouldn't know if I hated something until I tried it on.

That being said, I think the dress generally should flatter everyone, but I think bras could be a problem...I have a C cup...and the twins hurt with just cups & dancing! I'm sure there is a way around it though... keep us updated!

TBee99

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[QUOTE]Since your sisters are MOHs then why don't you have them wear that dress since they both like it and have the other bridesmaids choose a diff dress of the same color and designer.
Posted by Carebear62584[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with this. It is probably what I will be doing. I'm feeling you on the BM dress problems, but my main problem is finding a color I like!</div><div>
</div><div>Also- cups don't do much for busty women so you might just want to mention to your sisters. That's something I have been really conscious of when picking dresses I like for my girls, because no one wants to be uncomfortable.</div>

jennylove810

Can I inquire about the designer of that dress?  It's lovely and not "bridesmaidy" at all.  I wouldn't mind having it just as a cocktail dress for some of the holiday parties this winter.

PeachesKFG

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[QUOTE]Can I inquire about the designer of that dress?  It's lovely and not "bridesmaidy" at all.  I wouldn't mind having it just as a cocktail dress for some of the holiday parties this winter.
Posted by jennylove810[/QUOTE]

<div>Sure! It is by Jasmine Bridal and I found it at Mariella's.</div><div>
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