OMG...I just did something....& maybe I can get some insight....(kinda long?)

littlemoments324

AWESOME!! haha but I've been having a really hard time finding a job in my field...I'm kinda picky....My degree is child development and I could have gone further for social work..but nah, I don't want to take kids away from their homes, or deal with the depressing elderly....don't get me wrong I love the elderly, but they just make me sad...=(    I love KIDS!  So, I really loved my internship with going on home visits to educate new parents on child development & developing a new program for after the initial program was done...while some of them actually gave a crap, others didn't and well...that just comes with the job...so those who really do take it seriously make the job all worthwhile...I also went into a few sketchy neighborhoods (scared the crap outta me a few times)...comes with the job...

Sooooo......I'm super stoked, but I applied for a job in my hometown doing almost exactly what my internship was like!  Please send some knottie vibes that I'll get it!!!

Dilemma?? this is where I need insight from an 'outsider':

While I love FL...I really really do!! (except for possible hurricanes, multiple hurricanes and the hot weather all the time...) I love it...I love being close to the beach & close to Orlando (theme parks, shopping, etc. should we ever want to take a little day trip somewhere)....I want to move back to MI....or at least I think I do?

This has been the hardest decision I've ever had to make...FI says whatever...he really doesn't care where we go as long as we're together...he's happy where ever...like I said I love it here, but we're also far away from family & friends...We want our kids to grow up around family, but we're both also content with it just being us...no drama around, etc....he loves his job and has a chance to move up to store management & higher...while if we move he'll have to find something else ( no issue there I guess)...I just know he doesn't want to be back in our hometown...while I do not either, however at least we're in MI.....ugh....There is nothing wrong with our hometown (other than its kinda gone downhill, job market, etc.), it just isn't a place where we see ourselves living...we could live about 30 minutes or so away, but why have that far of a commute when we could live right there...

DECISIONS!!  This is all I have been thinking about...I have had a ton of self reflection & what not the past year....I guess when we're in our 20's we go through the whole finding self thing! ha ha.... Ugh...I should not be worried about this so close to the wedding but what if I do get the job before the wedding?? we'd definitely have to move when we go back for the wedding! and I don't even know if I'll get the job or not...but this is just something that I have been thinking a lot about...We want to buy a house soon (only because I know it'll be cheaper than renting for us in the long run) and we want to be settled...


CLIFF NOTE:
Applied for a job with my degree (FINALLY!) but its in MI...not sure if we want to move back to MI or stay in FL...FI is leaving the decision up to me because he doesn't care where we're at even though I know deep down he doesn't want to leave here...I don't want to take him away from a job that he loves, but I don't want to give up my 'dream' job either...

Insight please?  Am I missing something?? THANK YOU!

Nancy00714

I would probably move.  Do you have any other attachments to FL?  Other than theme parks and the weather?  There have been a lot of commercials for Michigan lately and it looks like a nice place.

Do you love the job you currently have? That for me would be a big factor.  If you're happy doing what you're doing then stay in FL.  Would it be easy for you FH to find a job in MI?

lvissers

I would say take it as it comes. If you get the job, then that would be when you would talk about it. Don't stress yourself all out over a "possibility", especially this close to the wedding. Sending good vibes your way. It may be a calling that MI is your place if the job is offered to you, and if not, then if means maybe you will stay happily in FL!

honeybear072012

Where in MI would you be?  Just out of curiousity!

I think moving for a job you love is a good idea.  You could love the place you're in but if you don't love your job, what's the point?  And if FI's ok with it, I'd go for it!

colleenm18

I agree with people about moving for the job.  If FI wouldn't have any issues with finding a new job then I say go for it.  A 30 minute commute is nothing!! FI commutes 29 miles to work each way (about 45 minutes) and I commute 22 miles (about 35 minutes) each way. 

I also believe that kids should be raised be a family and that it is also nice to always have family around for help and support.  I am extremely close with my family and could never imagine raising my own family without them there all the time for me!

littlemoments324

I am currently in retail.  I have been in retail since I was 16 and I'm ready for a change...I've been ready, but I always thought that maybe it was my calling & I just didn't see it??  I do really love my job, I love most of the people I work with, the customers are wonderful (most of the time) and I'm good at what I do, and I'm getting better at the whole management aspect of it....

FI has finally found a job that he loves...I'm sure he'll find something that he loves as well...He is an assistant manager in retail...

I LOVE MI...It is a wonderful place to grow up. We grew up in Saginaw...I grew up going up north camping, fishing, etc.  We have SEASONS!!!, people are friendly, etc...its just beautiful...Ever since GM closed the plant in my hometown, things have just gone down hill...that is one of the reasons why we do not want to go back to our hometown...but we'll make it work....=)  It was weird going back to MI after being gone for so long..things have changed a lot..it seems much quieter than it used to be...

Thanks so far...I'm anxious to hear what else ya'll have to say...

Lisariqua

It doesn't hurt to apply in your area and back home. I would take a chance and see what kind of leads you may find.

michelle11988

I would say apply for the job and take it as it comes.  It sounds like you would love the job, but are you sure? If you end up hating the job after a year, will you regret it? Is there any similar opportunities in FL since FI has a great job there.  It sounds like you would love to move back to Michigan but not to your hometown and that's probably from your family being there.  Just take a step back and make sure you won't regret it in the long run.

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That is so cool! Sending lots of positive vibes your way!  While being closer to family would be a huge upside, I think the other thing to look at is the possibility of your FI getting a job.  Michigan is still pretty tough right now even though it is starting to look better.  That would be my only huge worry if I were in your position.  

littlemoments324

OH I love my family...that is the reason why we don't want to move back to our hometown...we want to be as close as possible, however, the city where we're from isn't in the greatest conditions anymore...There are still really nice parts, however, it still isn't attractive to us anymore....

I've been looking in FL...and nothing similar has come up...

bells24412

I know this isn't probably the best advice to give you but I think you should take it as it comes and if you get the job then it is ment to be that you are supposed to be back home. I am a big believer about things being ment to be and having signs point to things and going off that. For your FI to say that he doesn't care the decision is up to you, that pretty much means that he does care and he probably doesn't want to leave but he doesn't know how to tell you since it is your dream job. I would have loved to moved to FL, but then I think about my family and not seeing my nieces and nephews grow up and me wanting to move goes away quickly so I see where you are coming from with the whole being close to family thing.

Like I said, I think you should take it as it comes and really talk to your FI about it because from the looks of it he wants to stay but doesn't know how to tell you.

Goodluck! and i hope everything works out!

butterflyjumper1

I say, apply for the job, and see what happens. As others have said, if you don't get the job, it will be stress worrying about whether you should move that was not necessary!!

It sounds like an amazing opportunity and as though you would be very qualified for it! Take a risk, apply, see what happens, and if it's meant to be, you will get the job and feel it in your gut whether or not this is the right decision! I think this is one of those life-altering choices that you just know deep down whether or not it is the right thing to do - not the type of decision that a checklist or a pros and cons list will help you with.

GOOD LUCK!! and if you move to Michigan we will have to have a midwest knotties G2G - I can host in Indianapolis :-D

k8888

Anything I wanted to say has already been said, so I'll just offer my little 2 cents:

FI and I moved a little farther away than where we work and commuting 30 minutes really isn't a big deal.  NJ traffic is normally a nightmare during the school year and rush hour, but you just adapt to the traffic patterns and learn when the best time to leave is.  For us, it was worth it to stay in the area, but move far away enough from our families where we could really start our own little life. 

Good luck and keep us posted... can't wait to see what happens!! 

honeybear072012

LM - I know a lot of people living in Saginaw.  Not the greatest place but still nicer than Detroit!   But that's quite a difference with your family.  Is none of your family left in MI?

I still vote you take the job if you get it.

elizabethmae315

I love MI. so im all for moving. 

You could live in lansing and commute to saginaw if you dont want to live there? But I think if you just applied for the job; you are stressing out too early. Wait to hear back on everything. Maybe the salary wont be worth it? Focus on the wedding til you hear back. (as im sure you will.)