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October 2011 Weddings

WWYD if....

You found out you were pregnant and wouldn't give birth before your wedding?
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  • ... do you have something to share? ;)

    This is my biggest fear.  I'm actually 50/50 between postpone indefinitely and move up, but I chose move up.  I definitely wouldn't do a bigger dress (awkward!).

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  • Hard to say unless it's actually happening, but I think I'd just buy a bigger dress. I'd definitely cut down on flowers and extra expenses to start saving for the baby.  Scary thought when we're nine months out!
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  • I voted to move it up before the baby is born.

    If you are in this situation.... I voted to move it up before the baby is born maybe to Feb or march before you start showing? That way if you have the dress you can still wear it. Maybe cut back, have a smaller wedding then originally planned so you can save money for the baby!
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  • I would move the date up and scale the wedding back. I was a miserable pregnant lady, so I would have just wanted it to be over and done with already.
  • I'm not preggo, but we are trying. Just wanted to see what everyone thought.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2011-weddings_wwyd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:650Discussion:323193d3-57d1-4d88-a223-3e4f6fdd908aPost:1f3614a1-eeb6-4f2b-aa8b-46e928b34d03">Re: WWYD if....</a>:
    [QUOTE]I definitely don't want to plan a wedding after having my baby...<strong>I would feel so guilty spending money on a wedding with a new life to care for</strong>, so I voted move it up before the baby is born and we would have a much, much smaller wedding.
    Posted by hatroopes[/QUOTE]


    That's a bold statment. No pun intended. I just had a baby in June. We provide everything he could possibly need, so should I feel guilty for paynig for our wedding also? If we were not able to afford it, I would be fine with doing a quick JOP deal, but that is not the case. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I, and I'm sure others, take offense to this. It comes off as judgey towards people's parenting, and that's a sticky area.

    We chose to get married after the baby was born. It was important to me that having my son and marrying me fiance remained as 2 separate events. I definitely did not want to plan while preg, bc planning for a baby is a ton of work already (way more than wedding planning) and I wanted to focus just on that. I did not start seriously looking at venues etc until he was a few months old. We went to Nola to decide on a few things in October when he was almost 5 months. After Liam goes to sleep at night and FI is at work, is when I have my quiet time to relax and look up wedding stuff :)
  • hatroopeshatroopes member
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    No need to get defensive Queen Jane, this is a poll and that was my personal opinion, not an attack on your lifestyle choice/parenting skills. That's great that you can afford your dream wedding and care properly for your son, but we will be paying for majority of the wedding ourselves and there is no way I would be able to justify spending 25-30K (our budget) on a wedding when I have a new baby to care for, which is why I voted to move the wedding up and it would definitely have to be much, much smaller. Again, this is my personal opinion, not an attack Smile
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  • Queen JaneQueen Jane member
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    edited December 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2011-weddings_wwyd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:650Discussion:323193d3-57d1-4d88-a223-3e4f6fdd908aPost:022c4656-af52-4a8b-ad7c-a7f40f7a75b2">Re: WWYD if....</a>:
    [QUOTE]No need to get defensive Queen Jane, this is a poll and that was my personal opinion , not an attack on your lifestyle choice/parenting skills. That's great that you can afford your dream wedding and care properly for your son, but we will be paying for majority of the wedding ourselves and there is no way I would be able to justify spending 25-30K (our budget) on a wedding when I have a new baby to care for, which is why I voted to move the wedding up and it would definitely have to be much, much smaller. Again, this is my personal opinion, not an attack 
    Posted by hatroopes[/QUOTE]


    No, I know it was obviously you opinion, I don't feel attacked :)
    I didn't realize that it was directly related to your situation, it seemed to be more of an in general comment. Thanks for clarifying.
  • edited December 2010
    I'd carry on.

    The FI and I have been engaged since summer of 2003.  We also have a seven year old son. I've learned that life goes on and there's not always a 'perfect time' for things and waiting for a perfect time just means a lot of waiting.  We waited on the wedding because of our son, we waited on a wedding because I was finishing college, we waited because he was starting college, we waited because we were moving....etc etc etc.

    Too much waiting since 2003.  So yep, I'd continue on and get married. =)
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  • For me, I think it would depend entirely on how far along I was at the time.
    If I were only a couple months pregnant to where all I had to do was make a few adjustments on the dress, I'd continue on as planned.
    If I were 7 months pregnant, I'd postpone merely for the sake of my own comfort.  I would not want to spend our wedding day being uncomfortable.  But, that's just me.
     
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  • I would still get married on that date. Just because I don't think I could move it up and get everything done I wanted. I wouldn't want to postpone, because I feel like October is far away as it is. I mean I think it's a neat way to let your child know that hey you were at the wedding too. That's just my personal opinion.
  • For this reason, and because I had to go off of my BC a few months ago, I am terrified of having sex right now :-D Poor FI.
  • If you are trying I would just make sure you are not 8-9 months pregnant on your wedding day. You don't want to be full term and having a wedding. You should really be resting at the end of your pregnancy and you don't want to go into labor on or right before your wedding day. I have a baby and he's my world. If I found out I was pregnant I'd be thrilled. In my opinion a wedding is one day but a baby is such an amazing blessing that is with you everyday and I know my fiance would feel the same way. The only way we would move the wedding is if I'd risk being in labor on our wedding day (at that point we'd probably move it forward and do something small)
  • I would carry on, I think that planning for a baby really wasn't that tough for me, and my pregnancy and delivery was super quick and easy. The hard thing with pregnancy, is that even from child to child you don't know how your body is going to take it.
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  • You are trying to get pregnant 9 months out from your wedding date? Hm. That screams bad idea, but I'm assuming you have thought that through. Take it from someone who has carried a singleton and twins- pregnancy is unpredictable.

    On that note I would move it back until after the baby was born. I was sick as a dog and always in the hospital... wouldn't want to run the risk of missing my own wedding.
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  •  I am a mom so I am certainly not judging you, but it just seems like a lot of pressure and stress to put on yourself at the same time to plan a wedding and prepare for a baby.  Of course if this is what you want, you only get one life and you should do what you and your FI feel is best.  Just concerned for you taking too much on at once :)  With that said, a baby is most important so I would get married after so I could concentrate on preparing for the baby first.  Best of Luck to you!
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  • This was hard for me because there is zero chance of me getting pregnant before the wedding. FI is a very traditional Christian man, which I absolutely adore and love. <3  I chose to keep the date and "buy a bigger dress" although, it wouldn't really need to be that much bigger - just with an empire waist, or a maternity dress. 
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