I may have posted about this before, but I don't remember.
One of my BMs is getting married this year and I will be in her wedding. Her situation is pretty similar to what ours was, she get pregnant with the guy she was dating for a short time and they eventually got engaged. That's where the similarities end.
Her guy is in the service and they had bounced around the idea of a JOP before he deployed (before their baby was born) but she told me they decided against it. This was in 2010.
On our wedding weekend I noticed that they both appeared to be wearing wedding bands. She had an E-ring and an eternity band, plain as day. She doesn't list a last name on FB, just first and middle, and relationship status is Engaged To hisname. He referred to her as his wife on a status the other day....
I do not take issue with having a JOP with a reception later. I personally think it's a little silly to do the big white dress and all that, but to each their own. No offense if anyone here did that. I do think that pre-wedding parties should not happen in that case though.
Anyhow, I feel weird not really knowing. I don't know if she's intentionally keeping the marriage a secret, if there is one. She's a good friend and I love her, but I just don't know what to think on this one. Do I ask her? Do I pretend like I already know? How does one approach such a conversation? Should I just smile, suck it up and leave it alone?