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October 2011 Weddings

The Name Game!

Are you ladies changing your last name? I am completely undecided on this. One day I think I am, the next I decide that I'm not. I know for sure without a doubt that I will not do a hyphenated last name. FI says he's good with it if I don't change my name. My parents are very traditional and think that I should change my last name. We plan on having children, and I would like to have the same last name as my babies, but I've had my current last name for almost 35 years, I'm a little attached to it. BAH!!! I'm torn.

What are you all going to do?
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  • I'm changing my name.  Although I really do like my last name, and sometimes I think I'll miss it. 
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  • We haven't decided either.  I don't really want to change my name, and FI agrees.  I don't think I'm going to worry about it until we have kids.  

    Eva- your ticker seems to have already made a decision!
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    It does look like your ticker had decided for you.

    I will be changing my name. I will miss my last name but such is life.
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  • I will be changing my name. It never was a question of if I wanted to change it or not. I guess I like tradition.
  • I'm changing my name. I can't wait!
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  • I'll say from personal experience for me...its difficult to have a child who has a different last name.  The FI and I have a seven year old son who has his last name and whenever I'm calling the school I always have to give both names, or provide proper ID for the doctors' office, or sign (Alex ____'s mom) next to my signature on permission slips.

    I know I cannot wait until October 8th when I have the same last name as my boys. =)
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    [QUOTE]I'll say from personal experience for me...its difficult to have a child who has a different last name.  The FI and I have a seven year old son who has his last name and whenever I'm calling the school I always have to give both names, or provide proper ID for the doctors' office, or sign (Alex ____'s mom) next to my signature on permission slips. I know I cannot wait until October 8th when I have the same last name as my boys. =)
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    This. Although our son is just nearly 1, I really hate not having the same last name. And I personally don't think it would be fair if I had decided to keep my name and give our son mine also. He's both of ours and I think we should all have the same. I'm excited to take FI's name, although his grandmother says the man should take the woman's (that's how they did it in Mexico) Hahaa.
  •  Drew and I are legally married (we had a JP ceremony before he deployed last year) and after the ceremony I decided that I really did want the same last name as him. So I changed my last name but added my maiden name to my middle name... It's kind of weird to look at my social security card with the whole name but it makes me feel better. I do miss just having my maiden name though. You'll figure out what works for you :)
  • I'm not sure what we're doing yet.

    I say that because there is about a 70% chance that Vhati will be taking my name rather than me taking his.

    But if I do end up taking his last name, I'll just be adding it to my name so it'll be First Middle Maiden Married
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  • I'm changing mine :-)
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    i'm changing mine. my last name is a pain and his is super common, so i am looking forward to not having to spell mine out anymore! i know some people lov having an odd last name but i am not one of them! i also like that it will be obvious to people that we are a team just by looking at our name :)
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    [QUOTE]  Eva- your ticker seems to have already made a decision!
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    <div>LOL! Sneaky ticker!! I made the ticker on one of those days when I decided I wanted to change my name. </div><div>
    </div><div>Gosh, it just seems like since FI put this ring on my finger I can't make a decision to save my soul. I'm always over thinking and 2nd guessing myself. Good grief!</div><div>
    </div><div>It's nice to hear/see what everyone else's thoughts are on this name thing, though. I'm glad I asked the question! </div>
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  • I will be changing my name but I havent decided if I want to be First Middle Married or First Maiden Married.
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  • I am very traditional so I never even thought of keeping my last name.  So I will be changing my name.
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  • Changing, I have to agree with the PP that were talking about having the same name as my child. I can't wait unitl my daughter and I have the same last name :)
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  • I'm changing my last name. I've always looked forward to getting rid of mine because I always have to spell it for people.

    I have to admit that I will miss my initials though. Much of my family called me by my initials (KLT) growing up and KLF just doesn't seem to have the same ring to it. ;)
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  • I'm changing it.

    It's bittersweet, though, because I am really attached to my last name. I've had it for almost 27 years, and there aren't a lot of us.

    However, I've always imaged changing it. I've always thought it is a beautiful symbol that a man loves a woman so much that he wants her to share his name. And in return she loves him enough to take it. Also, it'd crush FI if I didn't want to take his name.

    I don't think there is anything wrong with women who choose to keep their names, though. Especially when they have degrees and such in their maiden name.

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  • I'm changing my name! I'm excited to be Mrs. FI 
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  • I will also be changing my name.
  • I'm hyphenating.
    I'm actually really surprised that I was so concerned about losing my family name, I didn't ever think it would be big deal...especially back before the engagement, when I would doodle Mrs. Chantel Filastname   :)

    FI doesn't mind that I'm hyphenating, even if I decided to just keep my name...partly because he has a really uncommon/great last name that he couldn't ever imagine changing himself, so for that reason he wouldn't push me to do mine. He understands my attachment.
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  • I can NOT wait to take FI's last name!! I am so excited to change my name :)
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  • I'm changing mine.  Professionally I currently go by First Middle Last, so after the wedding I'll be First Maiden New Last.
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  • I've always known I would change my last name, though I'll be moving further back the alphabet to W.  Plus it's the only letter with more than 1 syllable, which always makes it awkward to say...  Going from an apparently difficult German name to a Polish name.  Should make for interesting spellings! Wink
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  • I am changing my last name, but I have mixed feelings about it.  My last name has always been a pain, but I only have one male cousin to carry on the name (and I'm not sure he will...), so I feel really sad about that.  Plus, I've had this last name for 27 years and I don't always deal well with change!  I'm a teacher, so I really go by my last name all day at work and this will be a HUGE change for me. 

    BUT, I want to stick with tradition, I want my (future) kids to have my last name, and like someone else said, I like that everyone will know that we are a team.  So while it is kind of sad, I am also excited about all of those things!
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    I'm the child of a parent with a different last name, throughout school I always feeling like I had to explain that my mom remarried.

    I have zero attachment to my last name as it is. I look forward to changing it even though Joes last name is kind of silly sounding
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  • kmf218kmf218 member
    I'm torn as well. Like others I didn't think I would be so attached to my last but my parents came down to visit a few months ago and when we started talking about the wedding my dad made a comment about me no longer being a "mylastname" and I could see he was sad about it. I am a big daddys girl and part of me sees my last name as a way of holding on to him forever. The other part of me loves my FI and sees taking his last name as a sign of my commitment to him. Plus if I do change my name we will have the same initials "KML", which I think is pretty cool lol When I was younger I always thought it was weird for a married lady to hyphenate their name but now I see the reasoning. I guess age does bring wisdom...most of the time lol
  • breanessbreaness member
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    I am definitely changing my last name. His grandparents only had one son (FI's father) and he's not married. I will be the only Mrs. FI's last name in the family. It's an honor :)

    I will miss my last name. I'm considering adding it to my middle name like a PP said.
  • I was married before and had his last name, then divorced went back to maiden name, and when I marry this fall I will be taking FI's name.

    I have 2 sons from previous marriage and they have their fathers name.  It is totally not a big deal to have a different name.  My kids encouraged me to change my name back, even though they are really close with their dad.  My sons are 15 & 17 now (they were 11 & 13 when I divorced)
  • I'm changing mine too.  I just feel it's the way it should be-it's tradition.
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