Honeymoon registries???

Septemberbride32

Are any of you doing a honeymoon registry?  We really don't want to register for household things since we live separtely and have 2 of everything already.  We were hoping that any gifts we recieve can go towards our honeymoon.  Any suggestions?

tecah123

I did it and I don't think I will get to much from it . So defitnely plan a HM you can afford. We were in the same boat as you and I feel you do what is best for you. Don't listen to what people say about negativity. Their are some pretty nasty comments about having a HM registry. But you do what is best for you. Good luck. I like HoneyFund.com
People give you the money and do a pledge . Very friendly website to use.

reese511

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registries??? : Just because you did it, doesn't mean that it is the right thing to do.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

just because you dont agree with it, doesnt mean its wrong.

yes there are people here that dont agree with them, but there are plenty of people that do.  personally, i think they're awesome.  do it, OP!

Blueyed228

I dont suggest a HM registry.

If you dont need any household things you can either decline a shower, or have a small registry.  If you do a small registry, most people will give you cash anyway.  Take that money and put it towards your HM.

As PP said, always plan the HM you can afford.

lsvensson

Uh oh...run, OP, run!  Or prepare to get flamed.  Brides around here get pretty uppity about the topic of a honeymoon registry.

For what it's worth: we're doing a honeymoon registry (doing Honeyfund, though we don't have any feedback yet because we just set it up).  You're your own best judge of how your family and friends will handle that-- I actually didn't even know about HM registries until several family members and friends first suggested it once we got engaged, so I know my guests are open to the idea--AND are more excited about the idea of getting us surfing lessons or horseback rides than, say, the oh-so-cliched KitchenAid stand mixer.  Some people think it's tacky, because it is akin to asking for cash (the difference being that the cash is earmarked specifically for specific activities on your HM).  

If you think your guests would think it's fun and not tacky, go for it!

StarLes

We are doing one.  However, we have already planned and paid for a honeymoon that we can afford.  If we get some stuff of the registry - great; if not - it doesn't change anything for us.  I agree that you should do what is right for you.  I know that our friends and family will not be at all offended by it.  And, this day in age, I don't think we have to follow all of the etiquette rules that were created decades ago! 

Edit:  Also, it's amazing to me that some people think it's tacky to ask for a $60 snorkeling tour, but totally okay to ask for a $60 toaster! 

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]We are doing one.  However, we have already planned and paid for a honeymoon that we can afford.  If we get some stuff of the registry - great; if not - it doesn't change anything for us.  I agree that you should do what is right for you.  I know that our friends and family will not be at all offended by it.  And, this day in age, I don't think we have to follow all of the etiquette rules that were created decades ago!  Edit: <u><strong> Also, it's amazing to me that some people think it's tacky to ask for a $60 snorkeling tour, but totally okay to ask for a $60 toaster! 
</strong></u>Posted by StarLes[/QUOTE]

Its probably because when you register for a $60 toaster, you get a toaster.  When you register for a $60 snorkeling tour, you get $60 dumped into a bank account for you to use how you like.

People equate that with asking for cash.  And asking for cash is tacky.

Im not here to argue with you, just explaining why people dont like it and consider it tacky. 

blondeintgeragrl

They are not well received on this board but are well received in our social circles and we are doing one. We bought a brand new house a couple years ago with all brand new stuff (not crappy hand me downs). I have a small traditional registry for those who either like to get a traditional gift or those who don't know how to use the internet .... We are using honeyfund (no fees) and putting excursions on ours. We have already booked our HM and a lot of the excursions so we are not relying on guests.

Since yes - theoretically you could use it however you wished if your an ass like that, we are including a photo of us doing whatever excursion was purchased with their thank you.

AmberMarieTX

Blonde, I love your invites!

caseyhaynes429

This is the first I've heard of a honeymoon registry (I know, Im a newb..) but I think it sounds like an awesome idea! Good luck!

MNVegas

It is never appropriate to ask for cash gifts even when you try to disguise request as a HM registry.  People are not stupid they already know cash is an appreciated gift and you don't have to tell them "give me cash".

Set up a small registry for people who prefer to give boxed gifts and others will just give cash gift freely.

dazyabbey

I think as long as you are honest and actually register for things that you honestly plan on doing, then it wouldn't be a problem. I know I mentioned it to some of my coworkers and they thought it was a great idea and were a lot more excited about buying me a sightseeing trip to the Eiffel Tower then they were about buying me a punch bowl or serving plates. You just have to make sure that you are honest with your guests and that you don't just pocket the money. I think for me I know that most of the people on here disagree or disapprove but I don't see a large difference between a gift registry and a honeymoon registry other than the fact that that toaster you are going to have 5 years from now but the honeymoon will just be a memory.

I also wonder if it is considered 'Tacky' to return presents and get the cash for them like so many people do. Even if you do receive 4 toasters or if you didn't like the toaster after all. Is that acceptable in the etiquette world?

EDIT:
In addition, this article is quoting from the Etiquette institute herself

"A honeymoon is a perfectly appropriate gift to request," says Peter Post, president of the Emily Post Institute, a Burlington, Vt., etiquette think tank. "There's no objection to it from an etiquette point of view."

Mr. Post advises that couples who are registering for a honeymoon also select nonhoneymoon gift options in the event some guests feel awkward funding a vacation. Thus counseled, we reviewed the many services that help couples take a honeymoon itinerary and itemize it into "gift-able" components for wedding guests to give. We tested the concept with our planned honeymoon in Spain and Morocco by registering at services including HoneyLuna, Traveler's Joy, The Big Day, Honeymoon Wishes, and Send Us Off.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB121020123458375115.html

Suznh99

I agree with the people who say you do what you want to do and you know the people contributing better than anyone on here. 

We were going to do a honeymoon registry, but my shower is after the date the honeymoon was to be paid by. So we went with a small registry.  We know that about 90% of the honeymoon would be paid for in cash, the rest on a credit card, so if we got cash (which we aren't expecting any) we'd just put it towards the credit card/honeymoon.  And we weren't doing any sort of site, like honeyfund, people were just going to call the travel agent directly and contribute.  There were no fees, no excursions, etc, all the money would have gone directly to our honeymoon. 

Good luck, because like people have already warned you, this is a heated topic.  I don't get it.  The people that don't like honeymoon registries are entitled to their opinions for not liking them and people who do like them are also entitled to their opinions.  No one's opinion of them are better than another's.  Do what you want!

And blonde...I like those invites too!!

hz80408

In addition to the pp's about planning the HM you can afford...

From the same article that Abbey posted: "

The services do charge fees -- they charge the guests, the wedding couple, or both. ....Fees tend to start in the 7% range (Traveler's Joy, Send Us Off, Honeymoon Wishes), or they may vary based on the dollar amount of a guest's gift. HoneyLuna charges 9% for registry services. It charges 15% if couples also use site-affiliated agents to book their trip....

So if someone is planning giving you $100 cash, but then decided to do the registry instead, then it's possible you'll "lose out" on up to $15.  Let's say it's 10% and 10 guests donate to the registry, then you're out $100 in fees.  That seems ridiculous to me.

Just register for small items, decline a shower (which you should do even if you end up registering for a HM if you don't have a "physical items" registry), and plan what you can afford

dazyabbey

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[QUOTE]In addition to the pp's about planning the HM you can afford... From the same article that Abbey posted: " The services do charge fees -- they charge the guests, the wedding couple, or both. ....Fees tend to start in the 7% range (Traveler's Joy, Send Us Off, Honeymoon Wishes), or they may vary based on the dollar amount of a guest's gift. HoneyLuna charges 9% for registry services. It charges 15% if couples also use site-affiliated agents to book their trip.... So if someone is planning giving you $100 cash, but then decided to do the registry instead, then it's possible you'll "lose out" on up to $15.  Let's say it's 10% and 10 guests donate to the registry, then you're out $100 in fees.  That seems ridiculous to me. Just register for small items, decline a shower (which you should do even if you end up registering for a HM if you don't have a "physical items" registry), and plan what you can afford
Posted by hz80408[/QUOTE]

HoneyFund does not charge a fee. A lot of travel agents actually do their own honeymoon fund as well that does not charge on top of it either. If I do choose to do a honeymoon registry I would choose an option that would not charge on top of the gift for either  myself or my guests.

hz80408

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registries??? : HoneyFund does not charge a fee. A lot of travel agents actually do their own honeymoon fund as well that does not charge on top of it either. If I do choose to do a honeymoon registry I would choose an option that would not charge on top of the gift for either  myself or my guests.
Posted by dazyabbey[/QUOTE]

Oops, sorry to be misleading then.  Read the fine print carefully.  We never even considered doing a HMfund, so I'm obviously not very knowledgable on them.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registries??? : HoneyFund does not charge a fee. A lot of travel agents actually do their own honeymoon fund as well that does not charge on top of it either. If I do choose to do a honeymoon registry I would choose an option that would not charge on top of the gift for either  myself or my guests.
Posted by dazyabbey[/QUOTE]

Does Honeyfund pay your resort or do they send you a check/deposit money into your bank account?

dazyabbey

How much does it cost? It's free!

Honeyfund is totally free! There are no transaction fees for couples or gift givers and no setup fees. This is possible because gift givers are directed to send the money to YOU, by cash or check. We don't handle any gift money here at Honeyfund.

In addition to the free service, there are two upgrade options:

1. Upgrade to Honeyfund Premium for a one-time charge of $29 USD. This includes your choice of design templates, a photo slideshow of you, photos next to your registry items, and no ads on your registry.

2. Accept credit card payments from your gift givers using your own premier or business PayPal account. Paypal charges 2.9% + $.30/transaction (US) and you won't find a better price.^* This option is available with both Free and Premium Honeyfund accounts.

* If you find a lower transaction fee, read the terms carefully, there will likely be additional fees to withdraw your money. There is never a fee to withdraw money from PayPal into your own bank account and you can do it any time and as many times as you want.

hz80408

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[QUOTE]How much does it cost? It's free! Honeyfund is totally free! There are no transaction fees for couples or gift givers and no setup fees. <strong>This is possible because gift givers are directed to send the money to YOU, by cash or check. We don't handle any gift money here at Honeyfund</strong>. ...Posted by dazyabbey[/QUOTE]

I think this is part of the issue that a lot of people have with HM registries of this type.  B/c the money is given to the person and not the resort directly (which I'm guessing is how they avoid charging you/guests fees maybe?), the person receiving the money really is free to spend the money as they want.  There's no obligation (other than honesty) to spend the money/gift as it was intended.

If your dog got sick the week before the wedding, you could just as easily use the HM registry funds to pay for an emergency surgery as you could to pay to swim with dolphins on your HM.

Rather, if you get money for a gift (and don't have a HM registry), you can still use the money on an extra excursion or something and then just tell the guest that you did so in their thank you card.

pitty

I'm using Honeyfund. I don't need anything for my house, nor do I want anything. If our families and friends insist on a gift, we'd prefer a honeymoon donation.

Not a darn thing wrong with it either.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registries??? : I think this is part of the issue that a lot of people have with HM registries of this type.  B/c the money is given to the person and not the resort directly (which I'm guessing is how they avoid charging you/guests fees maybe?),<strong> the person receiving the money really is free to spend the money as they want.  There's no obligation (other than honesty) to spend the money/gift as it was intended.</strong> If your dog got sick the week before the wedding, you could just as easily use the HM registry funds to pay for an emergency surgery as you could to pay to swim with dolphins on your HM. Rather, if you get money for a gift (and don't have a HM registry), you can still use the money on an extra excursion or something and then just tell the guest that you did so in their thank you card.
Posted by hz80408[/QUOTE]

If you register for swimming with dolphins, but then never even go on a HM, then it's the couple who's tacky and deceitful, nbot the HM registry.

That being said, OP- there are probably literally HUNDREDS of posts on HM registries on this board.  Please take the time to look through some of them (there's a search feature at the bottom of the page) before posting questions.  There's also a sticky on the registering and gifts board that you should read.

dazyabbey

You could do that. I do know that. I like when someone else stated that they planned on sending a thank you note with the picture of the event they are doing that the guest payed for. A lot of the registries do not designate that you HAVE to spend your money on the item they purchased. However that does not mean that the honeymoon registry itself is a horrible thing and tacky thing to do. I know a lot of people who got married and returned numerous gifts and purchased different items and to me that is a lot more tacky then going out to dinner on your honeymoon thanks to a gift from a guest. I think it just depends on your perspective. I just wanted to state that etiquette wise, it is acceptable by the queen of etiquette herself. And depending on how people use it then it can be acceptable and it can be tacky, but the same goes for every type of registry.

sarahfowler38

Depending on where you're going on your honeymoon, some places have registries through their own sites. So when a guest buys an event, it signs you up for it automatically and the money goes to the resort/cruise/etc. That way your guests are assured that you are definitely using it to that activity.

I agree that you should do whatever you want. No matter what, people are going to have opinions.

LisaChris2011

Dazyabbey, then why bother doing a HM registry if you are going to receive money directly from it? I know you're stuck on the "I liked it when someone else stated that they planned on sending a thank you note with the picture of the event they are doing that the guest payed for..." but you could still do this without a HM registry.  Just say "thank you Aunt Martha for the $100..we spent it towards an excursion riding the elephants!" Or whatever.

LisaChris2011

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[QUOTE]Depending on where you're going on your honeymoon, some places have registries through their own sites. So when a guest buys an event, it signs you up for it automatically and the money goes to the resort/cruise/etc. That way your guests are assured that you are definitely using it to that activity. <strong>I agree that you should do whatever you want.</strong> No matter what, people are going to have opinions.
Posted by sarahfowler38[/QUOTE]

No, you can't do whatever you want when it comes to etiquette.  If you want to look low-class and not having any manners, then yes, but people shoudl really stay away from selfiish registeries like that. Do a honeymoon you can afford, don't expect people to pay for it.

StarLes

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[QUOTE]You could do that. I do know that. I like when someone else stated that they planned on sending a thank you note with the picture of the event they are doing that the guest payed for. A lot of the registries do not designate that you HAVE to spend your money on the item they purchased. However that does not mean that the honeymoon registry itself is a horrible thing and tacky thing to do. I know a lot of people who got married and returned numerous gifts and purchased different items and to me that is a lot more tacky then going out to dinner on your honeymoon thanks to a gift from a guest. I think it just depends on your perspective. I just wanted to state that etiquette wise, it is acceptable by the queen of etiquette herself. And depending on how people use it then it can be acceptable and it can be tacky, but the same goes for every type of registry.
Posted by dazyabbey[/QUOTE]

I agree...if one is tacky, they are all tacky.  Not sure why people assume that a honeymoon registry will not be used for the honeymoon.  I've also seen the suggestion that you should create a small registry to basically force people into giving you cash -- in my opinion, that's the tacky move.  Oh well, it's seems that this debate will never be settled. 

dazyabbey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registries??? : No, you can't do whatever you want when it comes to etiquette.  If you want to look low-class and not having any manners, then yes, but people shoudl really stay away from selfiish registeries like that. Do a honeymoon you can afford, don't expect people to pay for it.
Posted by LisaChris2011[/QUOTE]

We have already established that on official etiquette sites that they say Honeymoon registries are acceptable. If you think it is Low Class that is fine. I don't understand why you are getting all angry. I personally don't see a difference in being 'selfish' for asking for a toaster vs. asking for a bottle of wine on your honeymoon. Either way you are asking for a gift. I will be doing a honeymoon I can afford but I am okay with asking for a nice dinner out on my honeymoon (And using the money for that of course) instead of asking for another toaster when I already have two at home.

I do however agree that people should not do honeymoon registries that completely cover the whole honeymoon. You should be able to afford your honeymoon on your own without the extra assistance. I think of the honeymoon registry as adding somethings that maybe you wouldn't splurge on.

<a href="http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/jessiejosmith.dustyschnack" rel='nofollow'>http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/jessiejosmith.dustyschnack</a>

I like that example of the registry. It is only things that are extra and a little more fun.

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[QUOTE]Dazyabbey, then why bother doing a HM registry if you are going to receive money directly from it? I know you're stuck on the "I liked it when someone else stated that they planned on sending a thank you note with the picture of the event they are doing that the guest payed for..." but you could still do this without a HM registry.  Just say "thank you Aunt Martha for the $100..we spent it towards an excursion riding the elephants!" Or whatever.
Posted by LisaChris2011[/QUOTE]
I would do it because then someone can go to the website, choose what they want to purchase for me on my honeymoon, then they send me the certificate for that item along with the funds. So if my Aunt Martha wanted to buy me a dinner on the Eiffel Tower one night she could, and I would use it for that. I know a lot of people on here say "Just don't do a HM Registry and notify people that you want cash through family and friends". Well honestly that wouldn't work for me. Most of my friends are in different circles or different areas and the family is the same. So if I told one person to notify everyone else that I want cash for a honeymoon then I would have to tell like 15-20 different people in order to spread the word for my 90 people wedding. You are assuming that people will give cash if I do not have a registry which is not the case. Maybe people on here know that they should give cash if their isn't a registry but at my sisters wedding she got the most random weird gifts because she only had a small registry. She got a budweiser wall clock and other random items. So considering a lot of the family members are going to be the same I would like to specify in a polite way that instead of that toaster or the $200 kitchenaid mixer I would rather have a memory that I will have forever instead of something that will sit in my house and only use a couple of times.

Maggie0829

You cannot count on people actually purchasing items from your HM registry.  You need to plan the HM that you and your future hubby can afford now.  Instead of doing a HM registry just don't register for anything.  Some guests will probably still buy you a gift but most will give you a monetary gift but again you can't expect anything from any of your guests.  Set your budget, plan accordingly, and then make a wish list of things you would like to do while on your HM and then see what you get from your guests and then use it toward your wish list...but please do not ask for people to pay for your HM and that is exactly what a HM registry does.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]You cannot count on people actually purchasing items from your HM registry.  <strong>You need to plan the HM that you and your future hubby can afford now.</strong>  Instead of doing a HM registry just don't register for anything.  Some guests will probably still buy you a gift but most will give you a monetary gift but again you can't expect anything from any of your guests.  Set your budget, plan accordingly, and then make a wish list of things you would like to do while on your HM and then see what you get from your guests and then use it toward your wish list...but please<strong> do not ask for people to pay for your HM and that is exactly what a HM registry does.</strong>
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

I agree 100% with the first bolded statement.  In no way should you count on the money to actually pay for your HM. 

However, HM registries can be used properly in which they aren't actually paying for your HM, just extras to do while you are there.  Granted, you should still be able to afford those because it would be a shame to get to your HM and not have anything to do because you didn't get enough money, but that's a whole other story.  I'm just saying that a HM registry isn't always this awful thing where you expect your guests to fund your entire vacation. 

dazyabbey

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[QUOTE]DazeyAbby:  I am quoting you here. "We have already established that on official etiquette sites that they say Honeymoon registries are acceptable."  What????  Where???  Not on any etiquette site I know about.  You can find a site on the internet that says anything you want, but that doesn't make it true.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

I had stated this in a previous post if you had read it:
#1 - From my previous post, From an article in the Wall Street Journal in which Peter Post, great grandson of Emily Post and current executive for her Emily Post Institute states that Honeymoon Registries are acceptable:
"EDIT:
In addition, this article is quoting from the Etiquette institute herself

<p>"A honeymoon is a perfectly appropriate gift to request," says Peter Post, president of the Emily Post Institute, a Burlington, Vt., etiquette think tank. "There's no objection to it from an etiquette point of view."</p> <p>Mr. Post advises that couples who are registering for a honeymoon also select nonhoneymoon gift options in the event some guests feel awkward funding a vacation. Thus counseled, we reviewed the many services that help couples take a honeymoon itinerary and itemize it into "gift-able" components for wedding guests to give. We tested the concept with our planned honeymoon in Spain and Morocco by registering at services including HoneyLuna, Traveler's Joy, The Big Day, Honeymoon Wishes, and Send Us Off.

<a rel="nofollow" href="http://online.wsj.com/article/SB121020123458375115.html">http://online.wsj.com/article/SB121020123458375115.html"</a></p><p> </p><p>#2 - </p><p>Along with that is this statement from the Emily Post Institute's website in which it says: </p><p><strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">Alternative registries.</span> </strong>You’re not limited to just registering for “stuff.” Charities are another option, but avoid controversial causes. You can register for a honeymoon or a trip (be careful – some services charge a fee or a percentage of the gift to cover “handling”) or even dance lessons.</p><p><a href="http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/wedding-registries-gifts-and-thank-yous/520-tamingtheweddingregistry" rel='nofollow'>http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/wedding-registries-gifts-and-thank-yous/520-tamingtheweddingregistry</a></p><p> </p><p>#3 - The wedding Channel by the knot has an article by an article by Peggy Post, another relative of Emily Post that mentions other alternative registries:
"And if you opt to create a non-traditional registry, such as one for sports equipment, electronics, furniture, stock or a home mortgage, it's still a good idea to register at a national store for more traditional gift items. Do this as a courtesy to those guests who may be uncomfortable with non-traditional registry choices and prefer giving classic wedding gifts."
<a href="http://weddings.weddingchannel.com/wedding-planning-ideas/wedding-etiquette/articles/registry-etiquette-by-peggy-post.aspx" rel='nofollow'>http://weddings.weddingchannel.com/wedding-planning-ideas/wedding-etiquette/articles/registry-etiquette-by-peggy-post.aspx</a></p><p> </p><p>Now, this may be 'random' websites but I am pretty sure that the Emily Post Institute for Etiquette, which if I am not mistaken is the #1 etiquette site and books available and have been for a long time. So not sure which etiquette site you 'know' but it isn't a random site nor is it just a person stating random things.  </p><p>"Emily Post's name has become synonymous, at least in North America, with proper etiquette and manners. Nearly half a century after her death, her name is still used in titles of etiquette books."</p>

JuneMaggie

We are using a "wish" registry- it is kind of the best of both worlds.  We registered for some "bigger" household stuff we need since we are kind of in "Fixer-Upper" hell- like drywall and counters- but also some fun stuff on our honeymoon.  I think it is a perfect blend and so far, we are loving it!  We are using www.uponourstar.com

HTH!