Is It Rude..

vedika

One family that we're inviting consists of a mom, daughter & son..The son is 22 and has several on and off girlfriends in the last 6 months I've seen him..Is it inappropriate to include his name on the invite with his sister & mom instead of sending him a separate room which leaves room for him to invite his +1?

skhynes

Technically anyone over 18 is supposed to get their own invite, but I don't think it's crucial.  However, just be prepared that even if you don't send him his own invite, you may get a phone call from him or his mom asking if he can bring a guest.  Or they may just add them on the invite.

umcollegegrl

we didn't follow the rule that anyone over 18 is supposed to get their own invitation. My cousin also has had several on and off relationships, but I just included him on the invitation with his parents and younger sister. I also personalized each RSVP with the names of the people invited to hopefully avoid unwanted +1s. Although I have had a couple people ask me if they could bring someone or not, and I've explained that we dont have space/money for everyone to bring a date.

vedika

I am also personalizing the RSVP cards for each person invited.

Theresa626

I totally don't think so, especially if he still lives with his parents.  If you don't want him to bring a guest and he does not live with his mom, simply put his name on the invite without a guest. 

MrsWhitneyAmanda

My 27 year old cousin was included on his parents' invitation. He still lives at home so as far as I was concerned the invitation was inclusive of the household. To answer your question I'd say it's fine to include the son on his parents' invite. We didn't have any 'randoms' at our wedding and we're very happy about that. To put it in perspective, one of my girlfriends only had one 'random' at her wedding a few years ago. That random is the one person who happened to catch the bouquet and she was super disappointed about that, as she never saw the girl again.

Mrs.B6302007

Technically, he should get a separate invite because of his age but as "going green" becomes more important to society, I see this rule of etiquette changing.  Even if you did send him a separate invite, you're not obligated to give him a +1 on it if he isn't in a serious relationship.

AlexiaANDRobert

I'm a rebel.  I just put households on the same invite. I even went so far as to put my two cousins names on the same invite as their parents and they're both away at college. :X If they get their panties in a bunch over it, they don't need to come.  Don't sweat it girl!

amanda0206

I agree with putting his name on it. I like the "going green" aspect of it, but it will give a friendly hint that the +1 is not wanted. ) Is he in a current relationship now?

vedika

he hasn't been in a steady relationship with the girl; they've been on and off every other week

ksn56

We are facing the similar situation with a few of my cousins in their mid/late 20s. If they are responsible and living on their own we will send their own invite if not their name is going with their parent’s. As for the plus one we are writing the number invited on the rsvp guest count line 3 (with parent’s) - 1 (on their own). Sure it is not etiquette but makes our stand totally clear! That said we wouldn’t be surprised if they showed up with someone anyway