WWYD?

LoLoWedsM

Okay so I have kind of got myself in a little bit of a sticky situation....   Fi and I work in the same office and we have about 15 people that work here including the 2 of us. We decided to invite 8 of them based on how well we know them and the fact that we see them socially from time to time. The other 5 people we hardly every talk to and would never hang out with socially. One of the people we didn't invite was a little upset about being left out and one of the guys we invited is bringing her as his date. I told Fi and now he feels bad about not inviting everyone and wants to extend the invite to everyone else. I don't really mind I just don't want to upset anybody and I don't know how to say we wern't planning on inviting you but now we are in a good way. What do you girls think I should do? Also one of the main reasons we didn't invite them was because of space issues but a few more people then we had planned rsvped no so it is no longer a space issue.TIA

AlexiaANDRobert

Truthfully, I wouldn't invite them. They know the others already got invites and there is no nice way to say that they've been B-listed. I'd just let sleeping dogs lie.  If someone actually says something to you, mention the original space limitations or something like that and leave off the part about lots of NO RSVPs. I really think this is one of the hardest parts in the wedding planning.

katdec

I agree with Alexia, I would not invite them. I am in a similiar situation at work where I only invited 4 people and the few others in my office I did not. Same reason as you, I do not and would not hang with them socially. As you know, you cannot make everyone happy - especially when it comes to YOUR wedding!

Pretty Parula

Being limited by space/money is nothing for you to have to feel guilty about, and I would hope that your coworkers would understand that. Perhaps you could enlist the dude you did invite to help quietly spread this explanation if others are miffed about not being invited. One of my best buds got married two years ago and had only 25 people at the wedding total. That meant that they didn't invite about 2/3 of our crew of friends, even though we all still communicate and visit often. It was what it was, and nobody got their feelings hurt, because we all know what it's like to be broke. Anyway, HTH.

Blonde407

I would stick to your original plan because you shouldn't have to invite anyone just because you feel bad or because they are upset they didn't get an invite.  I really don't understand the way some people think when it comes to weddings and invites lol. 

bcnoelle

Sometimes a B-list invite is worse than not being invited because it makes it seem like you are fishing for gifts or that you are inviting them out of pity/guilt.  I might let the guest of the invited person know that you are really happy that they are able to make it to your wedding and will be there to celebrate.  Everyone should know that weddings get expensive.  As long as you make an effort not to openly gloat about your wedding at the workplace, you shouldn't feel bad.

John and Charisma <3

I agree...I would not invite them. Someone should not be at your wedding because you feel bad for them, they should be there because you and/or FI are close to them and want to celebrate with them. Chances are, if they are upset about it, they will be upset even if you invite them now because they will know they are on the B list. Honestly, if they don't understand then they don't need to be there anyway.

ktclare412

It sounds like you probably would have invited them if you had plenty of space in the first place; Its understandable that you have to cut people out when that is an issue. I don't think you should worry about explaining yourself too much if you did invite them. Although I probably would feel how you did and as long as you get along with the people it should be no big deal to extend the invite. maybe not all of them will come.