this is the code for the render ad
Community› Local Wedding Boards› Florida-Central Florida
Florida-Central Florida
New Discussion

Someone needs to slap me...

therockisblinding05therockisblinding05
Fourth Anniversary 100 Comments
in Florida-Central Florida
Ok I just know I'm overreacting here and I can't figure out why i'm still upset. Last thursday I called my FMIL to ask a ? and she never called back. I mentioned to FI this weekend when he came to visit and he said "she's probably out celebrating that she doesn't have cancer"....UH WHAT?!? Apparently, day after e-party, FI and fam went to breakfast (I had to work) and FMIL mentioned some abnormal stuff so the drs. were running extra tests which on the paper it said "cancer screening". Praise God she is ok. But I can't figure out why I am so upset that I was kept out of the loop. After my reaction FI then says "ooohh yaaaa..you weren't there". To make matters worse, FMIL called FBIL'S GF to tell her the  good news, and I still had NO CLUE about any of this til this past Saturday. FI said he was sorry for forgetting to tell me, so I don't know why I'm so hurt still. I guess maybe with the engagement I'm trying to get closer to the FILS and it's not working? or maybe PMS?? feel free to send virtual slaps!
Report Reply to Post

Re: Someone needs to slap me...

  • poptartsrock01poptartsrock01 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    ::SLIPPITYSLAP::I can understand being upset. But I wouldn't let it go too far, with something as serious as cancer... FMIL probably wasn't thinking about it. I wouldn't take it too personally. As far as the FI, just let him know that you were hurt about being kept out of the loop. And that in the future you want to be included, so that you can be there for the family more. I'm so sorry :( It's not always easy figuring out new families!
    Report Reply
  • ericak926ericak926 member
    Tenth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    No slap necessary! I can understand that you are upset that you are "out of the loop" but I would be thankful that I wasn't drawn into the drama of celebrating that she doesn't have cancer. I mean, come on, she had some cancer screening. It wasn't like she had a biopsy or anything crazy like that. I think if it was really important FI would have told you. Just tell him next time you would like to know and as far as the relationship with your FMIL, maybe that will just take some time to develop.
    Photobucket
    Anniversary
    Holy Matrimony Concoction
    Report Reply
  • John and Charisma <3John and Charisma <3
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    No slap! Your FI should have told you. He did apoligize though so I would just let him know that what goes on in his family is important to you and leave it at that.
    Report Reply
  • jackx18jackx18
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    It will get better.  Call FMIL and say you heard the news and are glad everything turned out ok.  MIL and I had the talk early when we found out H wasn't always so good in relaying information.  BIL is the same was as H so MIL had the same convo with his wife.  You FI said sorry so don't be mad at him but do tell him that you DO want to stay in the loop etc etc.  And there may have been more to the story with FMIL calling FBIL's GF so try not to let that get to you. Main point - I get being upset but just work something out with FI and FMIL.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards