Do you find it offensive when people think a wedding is a waste of money

Joyiu

In work today we were discussing my wedding in 10 day time and someone asked how much it was costing !! i told them (approx £10 grand) and someone said that was a waste of money and what is the point when it could go to a kitchen/child fund etc. However we have saved hard for 18 months and will get in no debt and i cant wait. I have found lots of bargains with my dress and BM dresses and it will be the day we wont. Not too extravagent but not too DIY and as far as i am concerned it is up to us !! i am 24 and my H2B is 28 we dont plan on having kids for 5 years and have 3 houses which we have invested in i think we are being very sensible but also enjoying our only www.theweddingstyle.com/">wedding day.

Just wondered if anyone else has had the same experience???

Traceyrb

My soon to be mother in law was told about us choosing to be married. Her comment was, " Why now?"  She told us that it's not necessary, that she didn't understand why we wanted to wed. We have children between us, and since I was married 11 years ago, I already had two children, two sons. She looked down on me then. Now that we want to get married, ten years after being together, she wanted to know why marriage was important, that we did it wrong and that she was embarrassed of us.  Oh well, I was married to an abusive man, and had a horrible marriage, I have my reasons for not rushing into marriage the second time...

jagore08

You have to ignore those people.  IMO, they rank right up there with the "Why are you getting married?!" people.  Just smile and tell them that it's what you and your FI want.  

Also, if you want to post on TK you have to take that website out of your siggy.  You can't advertise on the knot boards.

LCtimes2

I experienced that myself especially with family because they feel the brunt.  So I did as what was just stated--that's what we want.  Then I try to be mndful of what I was sharing until they didn't think I was etting married...because I stopped talking about it.  Keep the numbers stuff to yourself and spill the details on other knottie brides.  It helps!

melliott09

First of all, it shouldn't be anyone's business how much you spent. And if you can't deal with the comments, you shouldn't disclose personal information. Everyone is going to have an opinion about EVERYTHING!! Just blow them off, don't let it bother you. It's YOUR wedding, hopefully, exactly what you and FI wanted, so that's all that matters.

Personally for me, there is no sense in us spending thousands and thousands of dollars on a one day party. We have 3 children, a house and bills. But I also have always wanted a small beach ceremony and backyard type reception. That's me, and what I want, so I'm going with it. We are very thrifty with money, and have to be as a family of five, especially in this economy.

Some want big and some want small. Hell, some don't even want anything other then JOP. In the end, as long as you and FI are happy, that's all that matters!

(Maybe she was jealous too because she wanted a nice fancy wedding like yours and couldn't have it for one reason or another)

Lisa8888

The people who say spending a lot on a wedding is a waste of money tend to be the people who couldn't afford to spend that much. People like to justify what they do or don't do. Instead of just admitting that they couldn't afford to spend that much, they prefer to claim that it is a waste of money. Its just jealousy. Don't let it bother you. No one should comment on how you spend your money.