I want to be Mrs. D on my honeymoon!

kma05c

I understand that the actual name change process is lengthy, complicated, and necessary. I also know that it's imperative that the same name be on everything for security purposes.

What I can't wrap my head around is that after it's all said and done and we've been introduced to the world as Mr. and Mrs. D, why I have to book my honeymoon and be referred to by my maiden name on the trip. We're taking a cruise and I just want for them to call me by my married name. I don't need to see it on my passport, just for the on ship sort of things. It's my honeymoon and I want to really feel like it's our first vacation as Mr. and Mrs. 

Any comments or ideas? Or am I just being obnoxious? 

[Deleted User]

By the time I get on the plane and get away from all of the wedding stress, I won't care if people call me Turd Ferguson for the duration of my HM.

lyndausvi

Well I think you are being a little childish.  But Ithen again I really did give it much thought on my honeymoon. I was normally referred to by my first name anyway. 

Because of security I doubt the onboard ID/cards, etc will let you use your married name, because legally you are still your maiden name.

  But that does not mean the staff will not call you Mrs D.   Ask your TA to put a comment on your profile.

emilyinchile

I know in many hotels they refer to you as Mr. and Mrs. whatever you booked the room under - I have NO clue if it would be the same for a cruise. But Lynda's idea sounds like a good one.

MNVegas

I already get called Mrs. M when we travel and have been for the last 2 years. Even though room is booked in both our names, resort people just assume we are married and it is always Mrs. M this or Mrs. M that.

Other than your paperwork, you will be Mrs. D, so I wouldn't stress over it. 

SuMmErKuTiE

When boarding the ship for a cruise your passport MUST match the name on the reservation! If it hasn't been changed legally you can't reserve your trip in your married name. We reserved our honeymoon with my maiden name, but everyone at the resort will know we're honeymooners and will probably refer to us as Mr. & Mrs. ____ the whole time.

On a cruise, your stateroom attendent and your waiters at dinner will get to know you the most and if they know you're honeymooners I'm sure they will refer to you as Mr. & Mrs. New Last Name especially if you ask them to on the 1st day. Other than that.. cruises are HUGE and there are tons of people on board and there really won't be anyone else calling you by name unless maybe you have some spa treatments done.

mbf124

LOL i just read cew's message and I literally laughed out loud in my living room!!

I agree...by the time you go through your wedding and getting yourself to the honeymoon who really cares what anyone calls you? You'll be "Mrs D" soon enough

alithebride

if you feel that stongly about it wait a while to go away (in time for everything to be changed) and then go on an HM.

if you don't want to wait-deal with it. it's no big deal. 

LOL what's the point of going away if you won't see or hear anything around you? really....it's a vacation.

kma05c

lol I have to admit I didn't know everyone would take every word you say so seriously on here. I thought it would just be a fun way to express some excitement! 

Of course I'll enjoy my honeymoon! I just mean I'll be on cloud nine and I know it won't make a difference. And I do know about all the laws and security procedures, like I said in my initial post, but I'm just excited! 

Thanks for the advice though! I'll certainly stop thinking about it and go back to worrying about the wedding itself 

duckie1905

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[QUOTE]I understand that the actual name change process is lengthy, complicated, and necessary. I also know that it's imperative that the same name be on everything for security purposes. What I can't wrap my head around is that after it's all said and done and we've been introduced to the world as Mr. and Mrs. D, why I have to book my honeymoon and be referred to by my maiden name on the trip. We're taking a cruise and I just want for them to call me by my married name. I don't need to see it on my passport, just for the on ship sort of things. It's my honeymoon and I want to really feel like it's our first vacation as Mr. and Mrs.  Any comments or ideas? <strong>Or am I just being obnoxious? </strong>
Posted by kma05c[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yeah, this one.  I just don't get why it matters.</div>

chicagobride_07

I wouldn't worry.  I got married 3 years ago and never changed my name.  Whenever we check into hotels and travel with DH, I am always called "Mrs. Hislastname."  I really don't care one way or the other.

kma05c

lol Oh goodness! Why would anyone reply to a post just to be mean? 

Thanks again. It really isn't that big a of a deal and I'm not REALLY stressed about it, I just thought it was kind of amusing. Like I keep saying, I'm just excited! 

Mrs.C4/07

Everyone called me Mrs. Hubby at the resort.