What would you think if you got a wedding announcement?

jennej24

We are having a small wedding, about 50 guests. So my mom (and grandma) want to get announcements to send to their friends since they won't be invited to the wedding. I am fine with this plan, but I am worried that the people will think we are sending them out just to get gifts. If you got an announcement would you think the couple was just fishing for gifts?

zobo410

That's how I felt about being invited to an engagement party but not the wedding. =( Maybe since they are older and understand that you are having a small wedding, that it's just to keep them informed? See if you could have your grandma and mom spread the word about gifts not being necessary. Can they just email or call these people so it's not as formal?

TheJennius

My opinion may be biased, because I'm foreign so I'm uptight about some things and uber relaxed about others. In this instance, I wouldn't think you're fishing for gifts at all. I would assume your wedding is small or you are keeping your invitations to your closest friends.

YHFoxtrot

Honestly, If I were to get a wedding announcement, I'd think that meant I was invited to the wedding... I've never gotten one though... usually just a save the date so I'm not sure...

lilbit255

I've never gotten a wedding announcement, but I've gotten other announcements (such as graduation, etc.) and I wouldn't think you were fishing for gifts, however I might think i was invited.

SarahNE

I believe wedding announcements are generally sent after the wedding has taken place, so you shouldn't get any confusion over whether someone thinks its an invite or not. I wouldn't think you were fishing for gifts at all. Maybe if you sent the announcement before the wedding, you might have that problem. This is just a friendly gesture to those who couldn't make it or who couldn't be invited to the wedding.

rclnd83

well in my case i am sending out invites to people out of the country.  lots of my family live out of the country (like my grandma who lives in Ecuador). My grandma wants a copy for her sisters. To me its just a small token that I can share with them since I know they will not be able to attend.

goldie3474

I think if you wait to sent it out until after the wedding with a photo of you and dh, you won't have to worry about people thinking you are fishing for gifts

MichiBolooki

I think it's a nice gesture to notify friends and family that you were married and were letting them know. You should definitely send them after the wedding, along with a photo, and perhaps also with your new address and phone number (make a little address card) hth

alexisrouse00

I've heard of this happening in different cultures. A few of my Latino co-workers had received announcements before, but this is what they do in their culture. It's sort of like hey were getting married we would have loved to invite you but our guest list is close friends and family.

jennej24

Thanks for all your advice, I didn't really think about when we would send them out, but after the wedding definitely makes sense.