So I am having somewhat of an issue with this, no biggie, but I tend to overanalyze things and I just can't help but it feel forced or like I am manipulating my way to get what I want.
The BM that was planning my BS began planning almost immediately after I got engaged. Sadly our friendship ended and with that the plans. I knew if I ended up getting anything it will be because of her only. The other girls although have been in my life A LOT longer than she was, are too busy with their lives and never find time to do things like that. Well after a big argument I had with the girls about their dresses, one of them finally decides to step up and do something. Of course 3 months away and with no clue what to do.
My friend decides to do it at my FMIL house. So she asks me to ask FI to ask FMIL if it was ok. She starts looking things up and getting things ready. She asked me when I think it will be fine to do, I tell her the end of feb or beggining of March, then I tell her the 20th works fine because I already had the 19th off for epics.
So I think we are on the same page, it turns out she thought it was the 20th of MARCH!! Really a week before the wedding?!?! My friend does not think sometimes, how is that at the end of feb or start of march? We realize that we're not on the same page and decides on the 12th. Ok w/e. That's another weekend I have to ask for off. It turns out my other friend that's helping her thought it was the 13th and the 12 she has a baby shower. She gets her invite and tells me she won't be able to go. So my friend thats planning changes it to the 13th and we have to call everyone to let them know.
On the other side I have my FMIL asking me about it and I told her that my other friend doesn't want me involved in the planning so I dk anything. But I do tell her that its outside, about 20 ladies and I tell her the food she plans. None of which she seems to like. And she starts insisting to make it inside. Then I get a call last week from her asking me about it again. (Oh yea she didn'teven know when it was found out through invitation and its at her house because MY BM has 0 communcation skills and she's a therapist!) My FMIL has it set that its inside. And I tell her NO its outside and that she doesn't need to worry about anything, the girls will take care of it. She proceeds to tell me that he house is upside down and she needs to see whats going to happen to see what she needs to do. Then why is she insisting on doing it INSIDE, outside she won't have anything to worry about as far as rearranging?!?!?! I don't get her sometimes!!!
And then my BM instead of making this whole thing easier on me has added more stress with her not even calling my FMIL to see if the date was fine or to do it outside. I really don't get her, why would you want to do something at someones house and not consider them or at least keep them informed. It's so intrusive and disrespectful. She finally called her Saturday and everything seems ok.
My cousin, which appointed herself MOH, has been MIA. My BM has called her several times to include her in the planning and nada. She finally just tells her to get the prizes for the games. So my cousin calls me Saturday and starts asking me what to go get. REALLY? We are having cupcakes at the BS, but I know my friend is going to want to bake to save money. I'm all for saving money, but its ok for her to spend $300 on a watch or sunglasses. So my cousin tells me she is going to get me the cupcakes I want from mishas. So in a way I feel like a manipulated my to get that =(
And the bachelorette... OMG I am sorry I wrote a lot... but wow! So I've been telling my friend thats helping out BM do the shower and who also use to work at the same place I do, that they need to decide quick what they are going to do because my friends at work that have been excited about the bachelorette party since I got enagaged need to ask for the day off. So shes like ok ok. They finally decide to do it the 19th, great abother day I have to ask off. With the shower, bachelorette, wedding and HM, consecutively on every weekend, that 4 weekends off, I don't like to take advantage of work like that. But since she had no problems asking for everyday off she thinks its ok. So my friends at work can't ask for it off because its too late and they already have the 12 off so they decide to do it then. Of course the bridal shower is the next day at 1pm, I hope I won't be too hammered. SO now its like a war between both bachelorrettes but both sides have been asking what to do?? Shouldn't it be a surprise?!?! As if I don't have enough decisions to make?!?!? I feel like I know too much or am involved too much.