Mother vent!

sarahsmiles326

So my mother always says, "Why are you & fi spending so much money on your wedding. You're so young & it could be better spent elsewhere." (Background info, FI & I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves & our budget is under $8,000, which is miniscule in the wedding world.) Now after seeing our vendors & such, she thinks we should spend more money because its not up to her traditional standards. To top it all off, she keeps referring to it as the "makeshift wedding" because I'm doing a lot of DIY. I called FI to vent to him, and I found her listening in to the convo at my bedroom door!!

This is why I try to avoid wedding talk with everyone except for the FI & you ladies. Everyone has their 2 cents whether you want it or not!

PhiSigFly

Ohhh, that's so frustrating!!!!! 

sadou02

Sorry you had to deal with her sligh comments. Its reel so true to minimize comments about weddings with FI cause everyone has 2 cents to share.

Just continue with your planning and leave her behind.

dewreb

Well, if it makes you feel better, I think it's really awesome that you are DIYing so much and that you and Fi are sticking to a budget! I'm in the same boat, and in the end I know that it will be beautiful and I think it's really meaningful to hand-make so many of the details! It sounds really frustrating though! I'd do my best to just avoid the topic with her and get as much support as you can from you Fi and others!

BlueEyedBrideFL

Hang in there!

It's great that you are DIYing so much stuff... you get to save money and get make things exactly the way you want to.

cmp1986

Keep your chin up. That's such a horrible thing for her to say. Tell her to pay for the whole thing or to keep her thoughts to herself. Hehe

twinkle82576

Agree w/pp. Tell her to pony up the money or butt out. Sometimes you have to be harsh, even with parents.