Kids at wedding?

m3good

I'm origanally from Florida, but now i live in NY with my fiance. We are getting married in Ft. Lauderdale, therefor all of my Fiance's family have to travel for the wedding. We both have huge families with tons of children. I feel awful asking people to travel to another state and not allow thier children at the wedding, but if I do allow the kids there will be over 30 little one running around at my wedding. I love children, but 30 of them pretty much all under the age of 8 may be a bit much. What should I do?

lyndopo

You can always request no kids and see what happens. I told my guests we preferred no kids unless it was absolutely necessary to bring them.

Moonstar713

hmm.. this is a toughy, and the thing of it is that if you say no to one you have to say no to them all. I honestly don't know what you should do. I think if it were me I'd let them, I love kids. But I see your dilemma. 30! That's a lot! Maybe a lot won't be able to make it since they have to travel?

cramo003

I'm considering an adults only wedding because there would be over 10 kids and not only is it extra expenses but the reception wouldn't be appropriate. We want to dance like crazy and really party ... I can't imagine having kids running around. I'll keep an eye on this post b/c I'm also not sure what to do!

cmp1986

I am in the same situation. I told everyone via my wedding website that we were not having children. I have a good amount of people with children coming in from other states. Most of the ones I talked to are going to leave their kids at home with family for two days. One option you have is hiring a baby-sitter, but with the amount of kids you have that could get exspensive. You'd probably need one sitter for every 5-8 kids. That's alot of people you'd have to pay to watch their kids. I am just telling people what is happening and leaving it up to them to decide on what they wanna do. I will totally understand if they RSVP No because they don't wanna leave their child(ren). But it will cost me too much to include them and too much to hire a baby-sitter. I'm going to be sad if they don't come, but I will totally understand where they are coming from. You can't please everyone and if you try, you will go NUTS!!!!!!!!  HTH's you.

EvelynandManny

If they are coming out of town I would not ask them not to bring kids... I guess Its tough...I was going to suggest the babysitter... maybe you can ask that they do not bring kids but if they must it will be X amount of dollars to leave them with the babysitter that you are hiring for the wedding. ... just a suggestion

herculeschloe

Sticky situation! You need to worry about your vision for the wedding and not what others are going to think. That being said, people will complain, that is a guarantee. Especially because so many are out of town guests so it isn't as easy as calling up their usual babysitter! Good luck, hope it doesn't become too much of an issue or stress point for you!

HeatherL212

Luckily we only have 5 kids under the age of 8! I love kids, FI would rather them not be there lol Being that your guests are from OOT I can't imagine telling them no kids. I would give them a sitter option at your venue... just my opinion! Try sittercity.com

anaroo87

FI's cousin had almost every guest as OOT  and she had a no-kids-allowed invite. Pretty much anyone who had kids and couldn't leave them with someone for the weekend ended up not coming to the wedding. One family brought their daughter who was about 10 and just left her in the hotel room Saturday for the actual wedding but let her tag along for the RD and Sunday Brunch.