Do I tell my once great friend she is not in my wedding?

Spingchicken

So the story is that we used to be besties as we got older we kind of grew apart but still love and care for eachother.  While we still love and care we just are not really up to date on eachothers lives.  We grew up together and her family loves me but we rarely see eachother or talk etc.  I have chosen bridesmaids and she is not one of them.  Do I tell her who my bridesmaids are or should I just ignore ( since its not like I am sure that she was expecting to be in it anyways) though she will eventually find out anyway?  Thanks for your advice.

millenia98

I'm sure she imagines she isn't if you don't talk as much.

Did she ask you? If not, don't even bring it up

pharmdmiami

Same situation.  I didnt tell her. She realized and it is fine

Spingchicken

Ok nice.  No she hasnt mentioned it but its just one of those things that I am sure her family probably brought it up to her even if she never did/does.

Sweetcook82

I wouldnt say anything..Im sure she'll understand. 

Spingchicken

I guess I became worried because she is so excited about the bachelorette and asked when the planning can begin

RU3234

Is this girl sensitive? I had that same situation and now I really never talk to my freind because shes mad that I didnt include her in the wedding party...she even asked to be taken off my guest list. I guess she assumed even tho I dont know why. I would just be honest!

twinkle82576

If she doesn't bring it up, I wouldn't mention it. However, if she's asking about the bach. party, she might be assuming she's in? Sorry, I'm no help.

sambrefe67

I wouldnt bring it up but if she does then just tell her how she feels. She can still participate in the planning of you bach party, if she does want to help plan it give her your MOH's number or email or something and they can discuss that part!

sambrefe67

**that was suppose to say** tell her how you feel....

latinachica29

hmm I can imagine this must be hard. I guess I wouldn't talk about it and don't bring up the wedding. more than likely she will bring it up and you can talk about it but she should start to understand that she won't be in the party.

i feel like im no help here either. GL!

Spingchicken

Thanks for all your opinions.  Im gonna hold out on saying anything.