MOH vent.. (long)

RaquelS

Okay so I may be a little behind on this but...I am just now getting around to arranging a time that is good for all my BM's to get together and meet and exchange numbers and all that good stuff. So I talked to my MOH on Friday night and asked her when would be a good time for her so that we can all get together. She told me that she was not available at all on Sundays and that Saturdays is a good day.

So..I jump on the phone today to start arranging a time on Saturday for all of us girls to get together. Now my MOH texts me this:

"Well I go to the gym at 9:30, I wanted to start going to the beach so that I can get a tan, so after 5 is good for me."

This absolutely aggravated the s%*# out of me. I feel like I went to her first so that I could be as accommodating as possible, and now she is trying to narrow down the time frame in which we can meet even more! I texted her back:

"Okay look, I asked you what day would be best for you so that I can be as accommadating as possible. You told me Saturday, so that is what I am trying to work with. However, I will not be able to accommodate your after 5pm request. There are 4 other BM's that will have to join us, and it may not be possible for everyone to make it at that time. Not only that, but I am not available that late. With that said, I am trying to find a good time for everyone and will let you know what times we are looking at for a Saturday (as you requested previously)." - I haven't heard back from her since I sent this to her earlier.

Now it may not seem that bad, but a little back story here:

My MOH has been engaged for 2 years. She has been unable to to set a date due to her fiance saying that now is just not a good time to even consider a date to settle on. When I became engaged, she as my best friend, was the first person I told. After that, we barely talked for about 2 months. Finally after a while she started contacting me. However she is really not that interested in the planning process, which is fine I'm a control freak anyway..In all honesty, I get a weird vibe from her everytime wedding stuff comes up. I have been very patient with her - because I sometimes feel that maybe she is upset or a little sad that things aren't going the way she hoped with her engagement. So I try not to be too pushy with her, because I do know it's a sensitive issue. However, things need to get cracking and I can't continue to take little baby steps around her. Grrr..I'm just frustrated. 

Thanks for letting me vent, even if I am being kind of Bridezilla-ish, but I really don't think I am. 

RaquelS

hahaha! wow. I didn't realize it was THAT long! Sorry.

dewreb

I'd be frustrated too. You consulted her first, and she should have let you know for real when she was available. I'm sorry!

lgrn22

lol once you read it, its not that long! I would just schedule whatever time works for the other 4 plus you on a saturday. If she can't time out of her beach day she can miss it and it just shows what kind of friend she is. But I would wait to see what happens when you are able to schedule it and see what she does before freaking out. What I am guessing is she doesn't have that much time and would like to go to the beach for a while, nothing against you.

brooklyngurl81

You need to talk to her in person and see if she truly is 100% for u and will do her MOH duties. Trust me if she's like this now, it will get worse! I have 8 bm's and most of them are always talking bad about each other behind their backs. I'm just so over it! It was worse and I had to talk to each of them about what's most important.

RaquelS

Thank you ladies. I plan on having a talk with her. She really doesn't have a lot of responsiblities to worry about, she mainly just worries about herself - which is normal for any non married non children having woman - so that doesn't really bother me too much. I think she maybe just doesnt understand because she's not used to having to worry about anyone else but herself. I think I just need to sit down and talk to her, I'm sure she'll come around once she hears me out. Gosh, I hope anyways.