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Doing it by myself

Nick and I have decided (since we're both artists) that we would do everything for our wedding ourselves (down to the smallest detail). That way we'll have a completely original event that's true to who we are. Thus far, it has saved us a fortune, however, I'm afraid that as we get closer to the date it might be too stressful for us. So much goes into the planning, details, and organizing. How do we keep it together?

If any of you did it all yourself, I could really use some advice or words of wisdom on the matter.

We are both really really excited! yay!!

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    michy22michy22 member
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    edited December 2011
    I love the idea... but agree it might get stressful towards the end...

    Good Luck
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    edited December 2011
    Love the idea..wish i could help you but I dont have the guts to do anything on my own! GL
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    edited December 2011
    I'm in a similar situation. Kind of. We're having a "backyard" wedding at my dad's house, where I grew up. We have five acres, so we're getting a giant white tent and having ourselves a party. We will be renting the tent, tables, chairs, linens, bar, bathroom, etc. Everything that we need as far as that goes. We're using all disposable plates, napkins, and serve ware. We are not making our own food, we will be having it catered. It's just too many people to try and feed on our own. We also aren't making our own cake. It's too big and too important, and I don't want to mess it up. We are doing all of our own lighting in the tent though. 

    However, we are doing everything ourselves. I'm hand making all the flowers out of felt and buttons. Every last bouquet and bout that you will see, I will have made myself. All of the centerpieces will be made out of string (pictures on my blog, link in my siggy) and I am making with the help of my sister (MoH). I'm designing every single piece of paper related to our wedding. I've already done our save the dates, hotel information cards, airport information cards, luggage tags for people traveling, and am working on a monogram now. I'll be doing the invites, RSVP cards, etc soon. Everything paper, I'm doing. I'm also designing my guestbook with our engagement photos. And I'll be making my own thank you cards. 

    We haven't figured out what we're doing yet for favors, but if it's doable by hand, I'll be doing them also. I'm in school full time, and working full time, as is FI. I think that the biggest thing that has helped me so far is making lists, and staying on top of things. If I'm sitting and watching TV, I'm sewing flowers. That kind of thing. Make due-dates for yourself if it helps. It will keep you more goal oriented and excited to do things. I have a binder that I keep everything in. I have a couple of boxes full of just wedding things. 

    I'm super excited that there's someone else taking on so much. I love seeing weddings on blogs that you can tell have so much character that speaks to the couple that got married. There's no doubt that when people look at pictures from my wedding, they'll be like "That's definitely Taylor's wedding". 
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    edited December 2011
    I did a lot of diy....I have 3 more months and i'm stressing a lil about the leftover diy i still have to do. But it was relaxing when I did some of the diy and when I would get frustrated it really helped to think how much money I saved!!
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    edited December 2011
    I did everything DIY except food.  I have to admit that while I was planing everything was fine, but the last week or so it was very stressful...I only have 3 hours of sleep the night before our wedding!  That being said, I think it was sooooo worth it.  I wouldn't have changed anything.  So if this is something you really want to do, go for it, it'll be worth it in the end!
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    edited December 2011
    Do as MUCH as you can... I mean, everything you can... in advance. Leave the last minute things to the professionals. Hire a DOC or planner to help you.

    You guys will be okay if you handle your projects every weekend!
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    murrc2murrc2 member
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    edited December 2011
    IWe have done all our planning ourselves and 'm doing as much as possible DIY also...I'm 10 days out and my advice is to do as much as early as possible.  There's no such thing as too early and things will take longer to do than you think.  People will offer to help but if you're a perfectionist like I am, you prefer to do it yourself b/c you know it will be exactly as you want it.
    I've loved every minute of it though!
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with pps.  Do as much as you can as early as you can.  Also delegate to your Bridesmaids or family when you can.  Also, hire a DOC for the day of so you will not have to set everything up by yourself. 

    I'm doing a lot of DIY (ceremony decor, invites, OOT bags, menus/programs/escort cards, table numbers).  I have been stressed about some stuff but it helps that my mom is always willing to help and is reliable. I put her in charge of the OOT bags, hotel block, getting our centerpiece and ceremony flower containers...and things like that.  Knowing that I don't have to worry about those things really helps relieve some stress.  I also have a great DOC that will be helping with the setup of my DIY items. 

    Try not to worry too much.  It's all about time management.  You will get it all done! Good Luck!
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    sophia_durandsophia_durand member
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    edited December 2011
    LaughingThank you so much!! You ladies have been more than helpful. All I need now is a list of all that needs to be done and tackle it all one by one.
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    jennej24jennej24 member
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    edited December 2011
    Just try to get things done as soon as you can. My new philosophy is to try to finish one thing at a time. I have been getting a lot of things to where they are almost done and then moving on to something else, that is stressful because it seems like nothing is done. Just finish what you can and then move on to the next thing.

    Also, you don't say when your wedding is, but remember things may take longer than you think. If it turns out you can't do everything, don't be discouraged and make sure you do whatever is most important to you. Your wedding will be very special and original even if you don't get to do eveything you had planned to.
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