39 days away and feeling lost..

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So 39 days away.. from the big day. And I am feeling lost when it comes to my BM's and MOH. I dont know anything about them. Meaning i know that have thier dress and who wants make-up/hair done. I have no idea when they are arriving (some from out of town), leaving, if they have shoes yet, if they need thier dress altered, how we wanna do transportation to the ceremony etc. And they really havent been the best BM's ever. I dont think i have talked to one in 4-5 months. The other one came to my shower ( still pissed about that) but things have been soo broken up over her being very difficult for this whole thing. From the BM dresses to taking time off for wedding related things. I feel very disconnected from my two BM's that I dont know how to contact them about this stuff.

rxjen

Can you just write them an email and tell them how you feel? If you dont tell them they may not know timelines and what they have to do for a wedding. Realistically most bridesmaids are usually not married so they may not know how thing go as far as planning and their duties....Just call each and one of them and explain what needs to be done. I hope you feel better

WeAreGs

I would probably write them both an email asking all questions... like a list... probably make it a funny one at first... and if you don't hear back in a few days then call... like PP said, many may not even know what it takes to be a BM

mfields83

i agree w/ both pp... i'm sorry you're going through that... i definitely know it can be tough w/ BM's being OOT... i only have one of my six living in west palm!  i have one all the way in SAN FRAN!!    so yeah it definitely gets hard... i agree and think you should try emailing... usually the best way to get it all out & get everything out that you want to say... just put a positive spin on it all   don't be defensive or they may feel attacked.  good luck --- it will all work out!!! 

anaroo87

sorry your going through this  Beth... I agree with trying to email them.. hope it all works out for you!!

twinkle82576

I'm sorry you're feeling this way Beth. I know a thing or two about uncooperative BMs. It really sucks and totally puts a damper on the wedding festivities. I agree with the girls, try emailing them and then take it from there.