Hmm..Where should FMIL be?

thebtflbride

Should my FMIL get ready with me? (Includes hair, make-up, getting ready @ hotel)

Some brides have mentioned their FMIL being there..these were not my plans - wondering what is standard

MsAmeera25

My FMIL is staying in the same hotel, i'm going to let her know when to come for hair and makeup I don't want a ton of ppl in my room....but we get along well so if she is there I won't mind

FaithCaitlin

I'm inviting her to get ready with us.

poultryprincess

Mine was with me - I wish she hadnt been! She took it upon herself to demand the photographer take pictures that she wanted, asked if I was really going to wear my hair like that, and annoyed the living daylights out of me!

thebtflbride

We get along, ok..I just don't get too close because it can (and has lead) to us being frustrated, so honestly to avoid that I am not sure. She's extremely close to FI so I assumed she'd want to be getting ready with him, but I don't know. She hasn't seen my dress, nor do I want her to, UNTIL he does. It seems, because of all of your replies, that I should at least ask her..but I really don't want to! Does that make me evil?! (mine and poultryprincess's sound similar - controlling)

MsAmeera25

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[QUOTE]We get along, ok..I just don't get too close because it can (and has lead) to us being frustrated, so honestly to avoid that I am not sure. She's extremely close to FI so I assumed she'd want to be getting ready with him, but I don't know. She hasn't seen my dress, nor do I want her to, UNTIL he does. It seems, because of all of your replies, that I should at least ask her..but I really don't want to! Does that make me evil?! (mine and poultryprincess's sound similar - controlling)
Posted by thebtflbride[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>It's your wedding day...do what makes you feel comfortable. If she annoys you I wouldn't ask her to, you want to be as calm and stress free as possible.</div>

JustinandLeeann

If it will make you uncomfortable, don't invite her. I probably would have felt differently about the situation if my FSIL weren't a bridesmaid and relatively young (she's 20 but in college and very dependent on mom). Plus FSIL will keep FMIL preoccupied, my sister will keep my mom out of my hair and my third bridesmaid is running general interference.

LaMaFa

You have some time before you need to decide, but if she does tend to get under your skin like that, it would probably be better to talk to your FI and suggest that he ask his mother to be with him while he's getting ready to avoid an uncomfortable situation for you- especially since you know they're very close. It would probably be what she would want, but likely won't say since its not her place until an offer is made (although she might hint to your FI closer to the wedding).

Mademoiselle D

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[QUOTE]You have some time before you need to decide, but if she does tend to get under your skin like that, it would probably be better to talk to your FI and suggest that he ask his mother to be with him while he's getting ready to avoid an uncomfortable situation for you- especially since you know they're very close. It would probably be what she would want, but likely won't say since its not her place until an offer is made (although she might hint to your FI closer to the wedding).
Posted by LaMaFa[/QUOTE]

I agree with you completely!

Mademoiselle D

I have a very good relationship with my FMIL. FI would sometimes say that I have better relationship than he does with his own mom! I would not mind if my FMIL would accompany me while I get dressed...however, the only person I care to have there is my mom. I want to spend those few hours before the ceremony with her (my BMs will be there to get dressed and makeup done) and she will be the one helping me getting dressed. I think it's a mother/daughter moment that I want to experience and I don't want my mom to have to share that with anyone. I have asked my FI to ask his mom to accompany him while he gets ready and have the 2nd photographer to take the pics with him, his GMs, parents and whoever else. In doing so, I will have the opportunity to create moments with my mom and so will he (he is an only child).

thebtflbride

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[QUOTE]I have a very good relationship with my FMIL. FI would sometimes say that I have better relationship than he does with his own mom! I would not mind if my FMIL would accompany me while I get dressed...however, the only person I care to have there is my mom. I want to spend those few hours before the ceremony with her (my BMs will be there to get dressed and makeup done) and she will be the one helping me getting dressed. I think it's a mother/daughter moment that I want to experience and I don't want my mom to have to share that with anyone. I have asked my FI to ask his mom to accompany him while he gets ready and have the 2nd photographer to take the pics with him, his GMs, parents and whoever else. In doing so, I will have the opportunity to create moments with my mom and so will he (he is an only child).
Posted by Mademoiselle D[/QUOTE]

this is exactly what I'll do - and probably what she'd want anyways. This way, we're all happy!

deelopi9

I asked mine although I am scheduling her first for hair and makeup so that she can go back to her hotel room to help FI and FIL help get dressed