bridal party help... again

lyndopo

So I posted maybe a week ago about wanting to expand my bridal party. I have decided to do it. We're asking my little brother to be a GM and I want to ask 2 girls to be BMs. Problem is....

I'm stuck between 3 girls. 1 girl I know for sure I want and will definitely ask. Girl #2 is a good friend but has a horrible memory and is constantly forgetting when we make plans to do anything and usually has to cancel because she's made other plans. I could see me getting really aggravated with that. But she's extremely sweet and very helpful. Girl #3 I would actually prefer to have but she's the gf of the best man (fi's brother). They've been together for a year and nothing would make me happier than for her to be my SIL if they were to get married. But what happens if they break up before the wedding? I'm not trying to be negative... just realistic.

I don't know what to do or which friend to chose. Anyone have any insight?!?! TIA!

eskiimobby

This is why bridal parties are ALWAYS a mess haha. I would wait if I were you. You're still plenty far enough away that you can take some time to think about it and figure out who you really want and who will want to do it as much as you want them to. There's clearly some reason why you want girl #2 to be a BM, even though you made her sound really flaky in your post lol. But because of how you worded it, I feel like in your mind you've already decided on girls #1 and #3, but you feel like you have to consider #2 for some reason, so you want us to say "oh #1 and #3 sound better" so you feel better about your decision. I could be way off. Just what I picked up on haha. 

But yeah. I would wait. I wish I would have waited. And I mean, when I picked my girls, there was definitely no one else I would have wanted. But since I picked them, I had one girl go CRAZY and get knocked up (she's single, ps lol) and we're no longer speaking, and there's new people that I would like to have put in her place that I'm not going to. So maybe just wait. And I know that's hard. 

Maybe if #1 and #3 don't know each other, ask #1 (who it sounds like you definitely want) now. Have her around for support and fun wedding planning, and then ask #3 in a little bit when it gets closer. Would that work? 

Hope everything works out Lynette! 

RU3234

I agree with Taylor..I would wait a little bit. You have time and so much changes. I think you want 1 and 3 so I would wait and see how their relationship goes...even if they split, as long as they arent walking together I dont think it would be a problem. IF they are really freinds they wouldnt mess with your wedding....My freind just went thru it and the broken up couple just did their own thing and didnt communicate and it was fine...Go with who your heart wants!

lyndopo

Well with Girl #2, anytime we hang out we have a blast. She's fun to be around but has a horrible memory and I'm just afraid that if we make plans to do something wedding related, she'll forget. And forgetting once or twice doesnt really bother me, but she forgets ALL THE TIME! Anytime we make plans, she ALWAYS forgets. She's actually coming with me on Saturday to go dress shopping and she told me to text her every day so she doesn't forget. I don't want to have to hold her hand.

I texted Fi's brother to ask him if he thought it was a good idea to have his gf as a bm, so I'm just waiting to hear back from him. If HE doesn't think it's a good idea, then I won't. But if he doesn't really have an opinion, then I'll take a little more time to decide.

lyndopo

I am definitely gonna ask 1 girl. I hung out with her yesterday and it took every ounce of restraint not to ask her. She's totally into this wedding and sooo excited for me. I wanted to get the girls together... take them out to lunch and give them cookies or something that asked them to be my bridesmaids but I will have to ask separately because you're all right. I need to wait.

I'm hoping girl #1 will accept... but I know her and her husband are in baby making mode. I don't mind having a preggo bm if she doesn't mind!

twinkle82576

I agree with everyone on waiting. I wish I would have waited. Now I wish I had a smaller bridal party, but I can't unask anyone, so I'm stuck.

eagles.fan1234

I agree with PP.  I wish I thought the decision out a little more.  Good luck!