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Touchy poll.

Out of curiosity, because I know this is a very ... divided topic.

How many of you are okay with strippers at the bachelor party,
how many of you are not?

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    edited December 2011
    I am 100% okay with it.

    I trust him and I have spies.

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    edited December 2011
    Oy! I dont want them but I know his friends so Im sure they will be there. Its not what I want but I cant control them. FIs freinds are crazy and out of control so Im trying to get passed it....With his freinds...im more worried about escorts showing up!
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    edited December 2011
    100% not ok. I might be weird but I feel this is a violation of the relationship.
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    edited December 2011
    I'm 100% okay with it. He has gone to a couple strip clubs for his friends' 21st birthdays and bachelor parties over the last 3 years and I trust him.
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know. He doesn't want them. So I don't have to be that girl that isn't okay with it. But for my birthday in march, we're having my party at a strip club, so it'd be hard for me to say that I'm not okay with it because then he'd think that I don't trust him. I just don't trust his friends. I feel like they'd push him once he's drunk. 

    But Jeff doesn't want to do bachelor/bachelorette parties, so I don't have to think about it. But for the purpose of this poll, I say that I'm not okay with it. 
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    edited December 2011
    I'll say this. It's not that we're weirdly religious, but we both have a deep respect for our relationship and how God meant for it to be. We're both virgins and him and his friends are 100% against the idea of having strippers at the bachelor party. So I'm calm about it.

    Also, I have put out the threat to his wild child brother that if he so much as says the word stripper that night, he will be personally responsible to having his baby brother STOOD UP AT THE FREAKING ALTAR.

    Moreover, his mother (my ma in law) will help me club them all to death if anything happens :)

    I dunno. I'm just weird maybe?

    Heck, my bachelorette party will consist of bounce houses and sumo wrestler suits! ... Or a trip to Harry Potter world.
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    edited December 2011
    [QUOTE]100% not ok. I might be weird but I feel this is a violation of the relationship.
    Posted by goldie3474[/QUOTE]

    I completely agree!
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    LAKE21LAKE21 member
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    edited December 2011
    Honestly, I'm fine with it. His brother is taking him down to the keys with a huge group of friends and I know it'll happen. At the end of the trip, he's going to come home to me, and marry me. 
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    FutureMrsFezzFutureMrsFezz member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm totally cool with it.  I know he doesn't care for it.. but if he wanted it I wouldn't have cared.  I used to go with my ex all the time..
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't say I'm 100% ok with it, but 90% ok with it. It may or may not happen, but I don't feel threatened by it.
    I know FI isn't going to do anything that would jeopardize our relationship. He doesn't even like the stripper thing, but if it happens it happens, I just don't want to know about it. 

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    sambrefe67sambrefe67 member
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    edited December 2011
    I dont care what he does for his Bach party.  If he has strippers he has em! LOL We've already this conversation. He's not really into strippers. But if he boys plan for it it happen just shower before you get in our sheets!! LOL
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    edited December 2011
    It doesn't bother me one bit! 
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    twinkle82576twinkle82576 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't like the idea, but I don't care if it happens. I trust FI.
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    Ken&CassKen&Cass member
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    edited December 2011
    I question the stability of the relationships of people who have a problem with this.
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    edited December 2011

    Personally it wouldn't bother me at all but that's because I have total trust in Matt.

    That said, He's never even step foot into a strip club. I've been to them a few times but he hasn't so in my case it would be a non issue b/c he would Never WANT to go to one.

    But in my opinion if you have a solid relationship with someone and trust them it shouldn't be a concern.

    That's just me.

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    edited December 2011
    I have to say I am 200% okay with it, I am not threatened by other women, and feel very secure in my relationship. I feel that if I can not trust him to be around half naked women, I can't trust him to be around fully clothed women. I think its about how secure and mature you are in your relationship. Plus I enjoy going with him. BTW we are both christian and attend church regularly together, and I do not feel that we are any less christian because we are okay with strip clubs.
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    edited December 2011
    I am A+ okay with it.  And I'm excited for FI.

    In fact, I want them at mine : D
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not only OK with it ~ I want him to have strippers.  He's having a big Vegas Blowout so they plan on going to strip clubs and burlesque shows.  I know he would never do anything with a stripper~ and I trust him.  I know it's not for everyone but in my case I'm 100% OK with it.  Besides it's not only a night for him but for his buddies too.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-south-florida_touchy-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:67Discussion:ccec368d-4f5f-46fd-a49e-9a4da943b60fPost:6bc7a1ba-4509-4766-ad88-820dce0eb4d1">Re: Touchy poll.</a>:
    [QUOTE]100% not ok. I might be weird but I feel this is a violation of the relationship.
    Posted by goldie3474[/QUOTE]

    I completely agree.  Luckily, two of the three wives of fi's groomsmen (one of which is his best man) are adimently anti-stripper and I know I can trust that these men won't jeopardize that.  :)
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    edited December 2011
    I am not ok with them, but I am also aware that his friends are likely to get one.  He doesn't want me to have any and I don't want him to have any either.  

    It's not a trust issue at all, but I know how stupid his friends and him get when drinking.  It honestly just kinda weirds me out.

    If it happens it's not the end of the world, but I have told him to tell them not to have one and he respects my opinion about it.  We'll see what happens though.
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    keziah27keziah27 member
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    edited December 2011

    i'm not on here often, but just wanted to add my 2 cents...
    bachelor/bachelorette parties (and the strippers/clubs that come with it) are usually meant for you to have "one last night" of singlehood.  if you're engaged to be married, you haven't been single from the time you got engaged, so there's no singlehood to have "one last night" of.  the last night you were single was the night before you got engaged.
    i know you could always change your mind about getting married up until your i do's at the altar, but the whole thing just depends on your views on relationships as a whole.

    with that in mind, my bridesmaids do want to throw me a bachelorette party, but it'll be a time for us girls to hang out & for them to have some fun maybe embarrassing me w/ lingerie gifts & honeymoon talk... lol

    i'm sure i don't have to say this, but the above is just my very personal opinion  =)

    and those of you with the same opinion, you are not weird!  everyone's entitled to their own opinion  =)

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    cinthia122cinthia122 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm ok with it as well.  Don't think its disrespectful, because I trust him and know he wouldn't do anything.  He is not that into it either, but know his friend will have something planned.  He says he just wants to go gamble. 
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    edited December 2011
    I am ok with it. My FI goes to the strip club now whenever his friends come in town. I don't think he is going to be having a bach party because none of his friends live down here, and they are all too lazy to plan one from afar. So I may be planning it for him, strippers and all.
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    edited December 2011
    I can understand and appreciate the opinions of all who have posted. However, I do believe that what it really stems down to is the amount of trust present in the relationship as well as the security or insecurity of the couples as individuals. With that being said I would absolutely have no problem what-so-ever if my FI went to a strip club for his bachelor party. While there are many variations of what actually goes on at these things, this is something that is generally expected- and usually not so much by the FI's request, rather the groomsmen/ friends that plan it.

    My FI doesn't like strip clubs. He is too shy for that, lol. I don't know what it is really, but he doesn't like them. I don't know what is going on for his bachelor party, but I am not too concerned about it.

    Now this doesn't mean I will jump for joy knowing some other chick is going to be rubbing all over him and I will have to try to not call him to see when he's coming home, etc. But I know in my heart it would be harmless fun and more emabrassmentt than anything else.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-south-florida_touchy-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:67Discussion:ccec368d-4f5f-46fd-a49e-9a4da943b60fPost:8ebd2d01-883c-4adf-ac55-28960358466c">Re: Touchy poll.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wouldn't say I'm 100% ok with it, but 90% ok with it. It may or may not happen, but I don't feel threatened by it. [/QUOTE]

    I feel the same. I'd rather him NOT do it, but I know it'll happen. I remind myself that he's not going to fall in love with a stripper. lol
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    Lacey36Lacey36 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am ok with it. I know either his friends will take him to a strip club or have a stripper. I trust him and know he would not do anything to ruin the relationship.He never gets a lap dance b/c its not him, he just enjoys going with friends. I have also been to the strip clubs plenty of times with him.
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    clovonneptclovonnept member
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    edited December 2011
    Funny you bring this up now.  My bachelorette party was this weekend and we had a stripper come to the room!

    My FI went to a strip club on the night of his bachelor party and I was .... yeah, probably 90% okay with it. I told him I was totally cool with it because really I compltely trusted him. I don't like the thought of it at all, but really if I had anything to worry about, I probably wouldn't be marrying him. Plus he's not the type to just visit a strip club, this is something his friends set up for a special occasion.

    So the tables turned for my bachelorette party this weekend but even when I told him afterwards he was totally fine with it. I think for the ladies its a little different - more comical than anything. We were all laughing the ENTIRE time and just had so much fun from it. It didn't help that the guy was like, 5'3" (and I'm 5'10" and most of my friends were taller than him).  But actually experiencing it made me feel better about what he went through, because not once the entire night was I thinking of doing anything "too far" with him (or any other guy). It was just sort of a rite of passage that we enjoyed and moved on from. =)

    But I have to say, to anyone who is NOT cool with it, I totally feel you.  It's just one of those things I'm somehow able to put out of my mind, but I could totally see thinking about it over and over and having it just eat at me! I don't want him touching other boobies!!!
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    atizonatizon member
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    edited December 2011
    I am 100% okay with it. In fact I have gone in several occasion with FI to strip clubs and we enjoy it. It's mostly the company of friends and talking crap. FI doesn't really care for the strippers. I believe my brother is planning to take him for his bachelor party. Also he hasn't mind when I have gone to male strip clubs for friend bacherlorette party. Everyone is enititled to there own opinion.

    It's harmless fun I think!!

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    avmn10avmn10 member
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    edited December 2011
    Not crazy about it, but if he wanted to go I'd deal.  Luckily for me he didn't want it for his bachelor party :)
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    edited December 2011
    I'm on the fence - I would obviously not want him to have it, but knowing some of his friends, chances are he will. I trust him 10000% and I know he won't do anything... so if it happens, I'll be uncomfortable, but not totally in shock or upset.
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