Alcoholics/Champagne toast...

PhiSigFly

So, I realize I have a long time before my wedding, and I find myself obsessing over really small details. With that being said...

My father is a recovering alcoholic, along with a few other guests who will be at our wedding. I want my father to make a toast, of course, and don't want it to be so obvious that he's not drinking champagne. I was planning on using sparkling cider, but don't know how to let the servers at the venue know who should get it. I was thinking about having them offer champagne or cider at every table, but that would require a lot of bottles of cider and would take up a bit of time. I thought of putting something on the place card to show that they should get the cider, but I don't know how I really feel about that. 

Anyone else in a similar situation?

waterroxy17

I like the idea of offeriing at every table. This way they dont feel left out

Krysta6

about half of my guests are recovering alcoholics so I'm actually not serving champagne because it is a little too risky. My question is, is it really a big deal to your dad to have it look like champagne? I usually toast with whatever drink I have at weddings because I don't drink. If he doesn't care then let him toast with whatever he wants. If he does care maybe tell the venue which tables have people who would want the sparkling cider, instead of offering it to all tables. I don't like the idea of the place card personally because I would hate to have to explain it. Also if you get a DOC or a planner I think this would be something that she could make sure happened ok. Don't worry this stuff works out because we deal with it everyday

PhiSigFly

Thanks! Yeah, I didn't really like the place card either... I think I want to have the cider offered, but it does make a lot more sense to just tell them which tables to offer it at. I'll plan to have those tables be in the same vicinity of each other to make it easier on the servers. Although, you make a good point about whether or not it really needs to look like champagne. LOL, I actually hadn't even thought of that, and I wonder how much anyone will care. I'll run it by my father before I buy anything.

sadou02

Coudld you just give everyone sparkling cider?

cmp1986

I am doing a sparkling cider toast (for myself only). I do not drink and everyone else that will be there does. So I am going to do the cider because I love the way it tastes and it looks like champagne. I don't like the taste of wine or champagne. So for me I figured it would be easiest. That way I get a taste that I love and to everyone else it looks like champagne. I think you should just let your venue know ahead of time and that way they can get a game plan together about how to deliver the cider to your guests. You could also just have all of your non-alcoholic drinkers sit at the same table. This way you only have to say table 8 cider all the rest champagne. Hope this helps you!!!

XxMari518xX

I think it's nice you are trying to help everyone out.  I would assume that if the person is a recovering alcoholic, they would just refuse the champagne and toast with what they have.

It is a very nice touch to offer those individuals cider though.

cherrystrange11

about half of our guests, including my husband are either in AA or NA. We skipped the toast. People just toasted with whatever they had in their hand. I think it worked out pretty well.

GL