Married Ones- Is It "Different" Once You're Married?

HOLSTANG

Hi Ladies,

I was just wondering if any of you felt "different" after the wedding?  I'm only asking, because people are constantly asking me, "Does it feel different now that you're married?" 

Considering my husband and I have been together nine years, helz no.  Should it?  Is it supposed to?  Which got me to thinking that maybe it does feel different for some other brides.

Does it feel any different toYOU? 

PS- When I say "husband", I feel like I'm playing house.

kcliveoutloud

It does feel slightly different. Nothing major. The difference I feel is what you said at the end of your post

"When I say "husband", I feel like I'm playing house."

There is for sure a slight adjustment. We are the same people and the way we communicate is the same and we have been living together for a year and a half so no big surprises there and yet something feels a little different to both of us. We are both still getting used to the "wife" and "husband" titles and trying not to conform to what everyone says those titles are suppose to mean. It's an interesting time.

Bella.Vita

We don't feel different, but like you we have been together a long time, 7 years and have lived together for 3 years. But calling each other wife and husband feels different. I don't feel like our relationship is different, but I suddenly felt more domestic. I never, everrrr cooked before but suddenly I am planning dinners for the week and making them every night. Little things like that.

jagore08

Nope, not at all.  Everyone asks us how it feels and I always respond, "After 11 years, not much different!  I just have a new name and call him my husband, but that's about it."

I think of it this way, it's like a birthday.  Everyone always asks if it feels different but most people say it's the same.

SMHubbard

It doesn't feel any different for us with the exception that if we get pregnant now it's no big deal. Not that it would have been a big deal in the first place, but not ideal. But yes, the "husband" and "wife" titles will take some time to sound right.

nikojamm

I totally agree with all PP.  We have also been living together for 3 yrs and have had our house for 1 yr - that was a bigger adjustment, but in a good way!  I also feel really weird calling him my husband!  I never thought about like playing house, but totally!

bostontoLA

Everyone asks us that question too.  We lived together for a few years, started seeing eachother for a few years before that...so nothing new except for the titles.   I do like it when he refers to me as his "wife"!  Still feels new to me!

23sb

Ditto what everyone said. It still feels the same, but maybe even better. I feel like we're even closer, but yeah the whole "husband" and "wife" titles still kinda freak me out

Melissa, I started acting the same way too! I hardly ever cook, but just lately I've been cleaning up the kitchen, buying groceries, and planning what to eat. I guess it's good that I'm taking care of us. I'm sure my former fiance - "husband" [feeling weird again typing that word] is happy about it.

Soon2B Mrs.V

Yes, I think it does feel different.  I now have someone who truly depends on me all the time.  

DH and I dated for 10 years, but lived 100 miles apart and saw each other once a week.  So yes, seeing him every day has been amazing!  

Bella.Vita

Dana- Totally, Bryan is so excited! He was saying he didn't really expect anything to change, but the fact that I'm suddenly being all "wifely" and cooking, cleaning more, etc. is super awesome for him! I agree with what you said about feeling closer. I totally feel that way as well. It's the same, yet somehow better and more special.

penaltyshot

We had a really big change, as I didn't fully move into our house until after the wedding. He was living there for a couple months before I moved, and I'd spend a few nights there, but most of my stuff was still at my parents' house. However, it still didn't feel like things were that "different" from pre- to post-wedding. It just feels right.