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  • Kati0105Kati0105
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    edited December 2011
    If you "fire" any of your bridesmaids, yes, you will severly hurt their feelings and most likely completely destroy your friendship.  There is no maximum number of bridesmaids you can have, and your fiance definitely shouldn't have a say in how many you have.  He does not have to have 7 GMs just because you have 7 BMs.  I have 10 (yes, 10) bridesmaids and our wedding will only be a bit larger than yours (maybe 140 people) but all of my BMs are friends who have been extremely important to me over the years, and I will be happy having each and every one of them there to support me.  Why would you risk hurting the feelings of people you felt close enough to to ask to be bridesmaids just because you are worried about how it will look?  Also, your bridesmaids do NOT need to attend your pre-wedding parties or help you plan your wedding.  None of my long-distance BMs were able to fly in for my shower, but this does not make me want to honor them as close friends any less.
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  • ellefirst1980ellefirst1980
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    edited December 2011
    If you already asked them to be in the wedding it is too late to back out.  I say have fun with the big bridal party :) GL.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for your advice on the bridesmaids. I just need to put my foot down. I'm getting a lot of pressure from people who do not understand that you cannot just "fire" your bridesmaids. Many people have told me "it's your day...you do what you want!"...but even I cannot understand this logic when it involves people you care about. & the other bridesmaids who are telling me this would surely change their tune if it was THEM to get the boot. I just needed reassurance that this wasn't the right thing to do before I took any action.
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  • CurlyGirlyGirlCurlyGirlyGirl
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    edited December 2011
    I'm surprised you would consider "firing" some of them just b/c someone told you to.  I'm not sure what your original post was as you deleted it, but perhaps you should have thought more about this decision before asking everyone?  I say too late, the damage is already done.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    You know, maybe I was a LITTLE upset with myself for even considering it & I deleted the question for that reason. If you must know, the people pressuring me are concerned about the financial situation which recently changed & has resulted in a dramatic cut in our wedding as a whole. & since I am unable to help out as much as I would like to I felt the extra pressure to do as they were asking.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    PS...I'm not the one that coined the word "fire"
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  • CurlyGirlyGirlCurlyGirlyGirl
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    edited December 2011
    Just so you know, it isn't in good taste to delete posts on message boards.  Had you done this on other knot boards, you would have been eaten alive for doing so.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    Well, I'm new & very unfamiliar with this site or sites like these. I came on just looking for some guidance & advice & am still feeling it out. I'm sure in a month or so I'll learn the proper "ettiquette" just like I'm sure everyone else had to right after joining. Thanks though.
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