Just Engaged and Proposals

a little unusual

okay ladies, i need some help! I got officially engaged this past new years eve! yay! but it has always been a little thing of ours, for him to "fake" propose* every so often. and i always said once he did it for real i got a turn to propose to him!

anyways we are having a long engagement, over 2 years, and he mentioned wanting a ring to say he was engaged as well. so i figure its my turn to propose to him, he did it so many times for me! i have the ring and we are going to the lake we met at and where he spent his childhood summers this weekend... any suggestions how I should pop the question to him?

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*our first fake proposal*
on one of our first dates, i asked him to make sure we got a nice private table at dinner, as it was the only time we got to see each other that month. so he called and told the hostess he was proposing that night and needed a good table. i thought it was hilarious. but when we got there all the waitresses were obviouly excited and had been told about it. when we got to our very lovely private booth i whispered that he was gonna have to do it! and tossed him the only ring i had on.  so a few minutes later he said " will you marry me" and handed the ring back.
    i said nope wasnt good enough. no one would say yes to that, it didnt sound real.
so he did it again later. got down on one knee, looked into my eyes and told me all the reasons he wanted to spend his life with me and how he would be a good husband... and oh my.... if he hadnt sealed the deal before... i was all his after that. i kept that ring on my finger until it broke off a year and a half later. 
about six months after it broke, he gave me a real ring to wear. :)

Re: a little unusual

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_little-unusual?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:34f7f60f-ede2-4d62-af42-23c11e77e141Post:5807f3d3-080f-4ee7-8822-de4c9758cc4c">a little unusual</a>:
    [QUOTE]okay ladies, i need some help! I got officially engaged this past new years eve! yay! but it has always been a little thing of ours, for him to "fake" propose* every so often. and i always said once he did it for real i got a turn to propose to him! anyways we are having a long engagement, over 2 years, and he mentioned wanting a ring to say he was engaged as well. so i figure its my turn to propose to him, he did it so many times for me! i have the ring and we are going to the lake we met at and where he spent his childhood summers this weekend... any suggestions how I should pop the question to him ?  [ FEEL FREE TO SKIP THIS PART] *our first fake proposal* on one of our first dates, i asked him to make sure we got a nice private table at dinner, as it was the only time we got to see each other that month. so he called and told the hostess he was proposing that night and needed a good table. i thought it was hilarious. but when we got there all the waitresses were obviouly excited and had been told about it. when we got to our very lovely private booth i whispered that he was gonna have to do it! and tossed him the only ring i had on.  so a few minutes later he said " will you marry me" and handed the ring back.     i said nope wasnt good enough. no one would say yes to that, it didnt sound real. so he did it again later. got down on one knee, looked into my eyes and told me all the reasons he wanted to spend his life with me and how he would be a good husband... and oh my.... if he hadnt sealed the deal before... i was all his after that. i kept that ring on my finger until it broke off a year and a half later.  about six months after it broke, he gave me a real ring to wear. :)
    Posted by stardust7269[/QUOTE]


    umm.  I don't get it.  Any of it.  Buy him a ring and "propose" if that is what he wants.  You are already engaged though so I'm not sure what you are proposing. 
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  • jacquiroxxjacquiroxx member
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    edited July 2010
    I think it's really cute.  It sounds like you guys have a really fun, fresh relationship and really enjoy one another's companionship.

    I say just ask him.  How did he ask you for real?  Maybe try to imitate that?  Or if you want to be romantic/mushy, you could tell him some anecdote about how the lake symbolizes your relationship, and it's only appropriate, etc. in ways that obviously I don't know because I'm not you.  Or something like that?  Try to use the location, or even just tell him how you feel.  Maybe deal it back to him- tell him all the ways you'll be a great wife, etc.

    Either way, I think you guys will have a great time.  Your relationship sounds really playful and still full of love (:

    **Edited because one word was completely not the right word and it was driving me crazy (:
  • Are you serious?
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_little-unusual?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:34f7f60f-ede2-4d62-af42-23c11e77e141Post:bbe18c59-59b4-4428-943c-b6e31a6fdf5a">Re: a little unusual</a>:
    [QUOTE]Are you serious?
    Posted by arthomas82[/QUOTE]

    Ditto this. Sounds like some high school kids messing around more than a serious relationship.
  • edited July 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_little-unusual?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:34f7f60f-ede2-4d62-af42-23c11e77e141Post:4c9e0ae9-e7f7-43b2-920c-fedfcbdb02ba">Re: a little unusual</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: a little unusual : Ditto this. Sounds like some high school kids messing around more than a serious relationship.
    Posted by PandaBurr[/QUOTE]

    I'll jump on this ditto train.

    I have a lot of questions about this post.  Why does he keep proposing?  Isn't once enough?  Also, I didn't understand the story about the restaurant at all.  You say you had an old ring on and told him to propose to you again with it.  Why? Sounds just as PandaBurr said that you all are having fun pretending to get engaged.  Did he ever propose....again.... with the 'real' ring?

    And lastly, is this a troll?  Tell me it is. 
  • My fiance and I had been together 5 years before he proposed but at about 3 years we actually got the equivalent of promise rings on a trip we took, which we both wore basically every day. The almost looked like wedding rings (not purposely) and because we were sick of people not taking our relationship seriously it meant a lot to us to show our committment to each other. After he proposed, i stopped wearing the promise ring and just began wearing my engagement ring but he still wears the promise ring, which makes me really happy. Having only the woman wear an engagement ring doesnt seem right to me and so having him wear his ring shows that we are taken and feels like a deeper committment to me. I think that if he wants a proposal, then you should make it happen. In my opinion, if you are worried about where or when (etc) it doesnt really matter because he just wants you to tell him how special he is to you and all the rest is just extras.
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  • very cute. sounds like you have a really fun relationship.

    i have a friend who would fake propose to his girlfriend about once a year for 5 or 6 years.

    when he finally really truly was trying to propose, she didn't believe him.  it was so cute because when she realized that he was being serious, she started sobbing and laughing.

    there are fantastic photos of the whole thing....  (that was 15 years and 3 kids ago)
  • Thanks to all those of you who understood and gave great suggestions! it went really well, out on the boat under the moon with the same kind of champange that we drank when he proposed to me.  and he LOVES his ring! being able to have a sign of our commitment means alot to him.  i understand alot of people not "getting it". it is unusual but i love that we are different. we don't follow the rules and we have fun. what is important is that we are showing our love for each other.
    to each their own! :)

     I wish all of you lovely ladies many years of playfullness, joy and love in your marriage!
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