Keeping the fact that you know a secret????

matzke227

Hello. Okay so here is my story....My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. We have had a wonderful relationship with its ups and downs. I am 21 and he is 20 years old-  We bought a house about a year ago and he has a good job and I just finished my schooling. We have talked about gettting married for about a year but got really serious about it about a month ago. We have started planning everything and contacting people and have set our date. The reason that we are not engaged yet is because he is a romantic guy and we have our finances together and I am sorta a nosey person. We are leaving to go to Texas on Thursday and I recieved the bank slip yesterday- he is gone for work- and I saw that he purchased a ring from ShaneCo. this past week!!! I am guessing that he is going to propose on Valentines day and I am really excited...I guess I am wondering how you guys who knew that the proposal was coming kept it to yourself...I am having a hard time because I am so so so excited but I do not want to ruin it for him.....this really is hard lol!

AmoroAgain

I always discount people who have to toss in "we're very mature for our age"

But hey, good luck n stuff.

Julz629

I didn't find out beforehand.  I had an idea it was coming, and I wanted to snoop, but I didn't because I didn't want to ruin it for him.  I don't know how to tell you to keep it in, but you have to so you don't ruin his moment, especially since you say he's such a romantic person.  This probably means a lot to him.

squirrelly29

I kind of had an idea before hand but never said a word and it was awesome because although I knew it was coming soon, I had no idea how and he exceeded my expectations as usual!

I would say even after the fact, dont even tell him you knew. I have never told a single soul that I had an idea of it (besides you guys just now) and I plan to keep it that way.

SarahSmile23

don't say anything. let him have his proposal.

KappaK

I found the receipt for my ring when I was doing laundry.  Ditto PP, don't say anything.

Also ditto Amoro, if you want to be taken seriously, don't say "We're mature for our age".  Everyone young says that.

laurenclaire1386

I saw a text message on FI's phone that said, "Have you proposed yet?" (and no, I'm not that BSC chick who goes through her FI's phone, he handed it to me and asked me to text a friend of ours becaues his hands were full) about four hours before he proposed. I just waited. That's all you can do. Definitely don't say anything.

DSHighSchoolSweethearts

When FI was getting ready to propose, I'm so oblivious that I missed some key clues (like him not minding watching "say yes to the dress" with me on friday nights). FI was actually surprised at how shocked I was when the proposal actually came. Definitely don't tell him that you know; let him have his moment. I'm impressed that you already bought a house! 20 was just a few years ago for me and I was bunked up in a dorm. Hopefully home ownership is in our near future! Hope everything turns out for you!

kelle017

I wouldn't say anything either, because he's going through trouble to make it special and if he finds out you know it won't be special for him, or not as much.  At least that's how I would feel if I planned a surprise and found out the person already knew about it.
I think my boyfriend could pull off a surprise for me because I'm gulliable.  He took the day off last year on my birthday to be me with.  He mentioned something about vacation time, but I thought he meant the next week when he took off time for a friends wedding.  He even "called" me from work, turning on the  bathroom fan to make background noise. :-)  I was surprised when he walked in my door shortly after that.  It was special, and I loved that he did that for me. 
Had I guessed it may not have been such a wonderful surprise if I was just waiting for him to show up.

spaje

definitely keep your mouth shut.  I know it's hard.  Mine's told me the proposal's comming up on Friday... but I don't know HOW.  I knew he was buying a ring, but that's because we'd went looking a couple of months ago... just on a whim, we both fell in love w/ a trio set. and I told him that if he went w/ a trio set, I'd go halvsies on it w/ him as I didn't think it was fair for him to have to buy the whole thing.  Now if he wanted to just buy my ring... and then his at a later time... different story.  So he went in for a trio set, he even called me from the jewler to tell me about it before purchase, just to make sure I'd like it.  Even had the jewler lady talk to me on the phone as I was at work... Honestly I thought it was just as sweet, because he valued my opinion, and wanted to make sure I was happy.  I got just as giddy about it when he showed it to me that day and he was just so excited about it then too.  I'm still letting him have the offical proposal though... because we both want that.  I don't know HOW, and what not... so that parts still a surprise.  and I still can't wait. 

Keep your mouth shut... Let him have the moment... you'll still be just as thrilled!