Kids - cut off age seperating siblings

Sparkette19

We were thinking of making a cut off age for kids at the wedding, like around the age of 15 or 16. That's all fine and well, but this would split up two of my cousin's kids. I was wondering what the ettiquette would be for this then....should we just do an all kids or no kids and make it even across the board? I'm curious if any one else came across this situation and how did you handle it.

awed81

How big is the age difference between the siblings? If we're talking about a 4 year old and a 16 year old, that is very different then a 14 year old and a 16 year old who pal around together. Etiquette wise, I have heard that you shouldn't split siblings, like you shouldn't split couples, as they are a family unit. We are doing high school or older to keep it a semi-adult only party, but I would have felt weird about splitting up siblings, which luckily we didn't have to deal with. If it's just a few younger-ish kids (13-14 yr olds), then I would favor towards including them. But if it is very young children (ones who need babysitters), then I would just keep the age limit, and hope they are too young to care!

mbuhpathi

high school or older is what makes sense and if one is 13 or so then let it slide. age 8 would be a different story.

Noron

We're doing 21 and over, and splitting siblings.  It's pretty common in FI's family, mostly because all his cousins' underaged kids try to get as drunk as possible.

tonyandstef

I would include them both.  Unless there's a huge age difference.  I think if kids are at least 10-12, they would be super excited to go to a wedding, and would be well-behaved enough. 

mandybear7

I definitely would not split siblings. But frankly, I doubt a 15 year old would have a better time at a wedding than an 8 year old. Most kids would rather do something else than dress up and go to a wedding with a bunch of adults.But, these are your cousin's kids... not your cousins. If you are thinking about splitting, what about not inviting either?

sschwege

We went about inviting kids the same way we invited adults.  We invited those kids we wanted to be at our wedding, all of the other kids did not get invitations.  Maybe people were annoyed, I don't know, but nobody said anything.  Either way I wouldn't split up siblings though.  Instead of an age restriction you could always say that you are only inviting children who are part of the family, or children who are coming from out of town.