What to do when you don't like bridesmaid dresses?

lauramarquez99

So the majority of the bridesmaids like a dress from David's bridal.  I think it is a pretty dress and they all look fantastic but

1.  it doesn't really "go" w/my wedding dress.

2.  doesn't call my name.

?

I know I'm the bride - and I have the power.

But I don't want to be mean.

I kind of suggested that we all go somewhere else to see if there is a dress that tops the dress that they picked.

LuckyXinNiang

i would let their selection inspire your final decision. you don't have to go with what they chose but it would be nice if you could keep the price similar. it looks better if it compliments your dress rather than a style that contrasts it.

duckie1905

While it is fine to shop around (there are lots of great places to buy dresses other than David's) I would be careful to not overdo it.  I'm sure they don't want to spend all their freetime looking for BM dresses-especially if they already had something in mind.

Additionally, it is very rare that you will find something that everyone likes and feels good in.  Try to keep the style similiar and the price in the same range as well.

Lastly, their dresses don't have to "go" with your dress or "call your name."  You aren't the one that has to wear it.

imtaken07

I am letting my bridesmaids select their dress, as long as it isn't tacky and is the color I would like for my wedding. I am pretty open to let them make a good choice. I want them to be happy.

jessNlane52804

Have they seen the dresses in person? Since my BM's live all over the place, I won't be able to shop with each of them, and some of them live in very rural areas where the David's an hour away is the ONLY place to buy a bridesmaid dress (crazy, right?), we're going with David's. When I went to the actual store I was very surprised to find that their dresses look NOTHING like what you see in magazines. There are a few good choices, but a lot of them have no shape and are made from weird fabrics (that reminded me of plastic and burlap). Maybe if you can all go together, you can reach an agreement. Another option is to pick a color and fabric and let the girls choose any dress style of those options.

jenniferandstephen

(I asked my girls to find a short black dress with whatever shoes and jewelry they want so I might be at the opposite end of the spectrum.)

When I was first thinking about BM dresses, my friend asked me to, in my mind, quickly go through all the pictures I had saved from other weddings. At least for me, I can't clearly picture a bridesmaid dress. The color combinations, flowers and fun shoes might come to mind but the other things don't really stick. That's when I decided with all the other WR things to fret over, BM dresses would definitely not be one of them.

 My vote would be if the girls are content with the price and you think it's flattering on all their shapes it might make sense to call it a win and stop shopping so there is one less thing on your to do list.

Just MHO, good luck with whatever you decide!

morgie44

Maybe you can find out what they are liking about that dress, and find others that have similar elements?  What style number is it?

lauramarquez99

Its 81123 in marine which in person looks like navy.

My dress is Demetrios, sposabella 4262.

morgie44

I can see why you don't like the dress they picked to go with the style of your dress!  Maybe you can say you are afraid that that dress will look too dated in a few years, since it is such a unique style that has been very in the past few years, and IMHO has already been played out/ or is on it's way out...

ondreaflynn

I agree with you, the BM dress doesn't really compliment your dress.  Surely if you went with something a bit more simple that could likely be worn again they wouldn't fuss.  Follow your heart, it's your moment. 

lovestohavefun5

Honestly you want to shine that day. I think the dress they picked out will not be good with your dress. There is too much going on and it won't compliment your dress. Good LUck! I love your wedding dress!

LexiMS

I totally agree--the bridesmaid dress has too much going on.  I feel with your full dress skirt they need something either straight with little volume or short. What about Davids F13287 or F13565
they both come in Marine and are a little more classic/simple, I think something along those lines won't compete with your dress as much.

lauramarquez99

Thank you!

I agree - so I'm glad I'm not the only one.

teamL09

I think that you should pick the dress and be happiest with it. I've been in plenty of weddings where I had no say in the dress and just had to go along with it even if I didn't like it all with a smile on my face, and that's just what you do when you accept a BM offer. There could be a lot of things not everyone is going to like- from bridal shower locations to bachelorette party plans to all the $ your wedding costs, but that's just how it is. It's the only day for you and you only. Good luck!