July 2012 Weddings

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What is one thing you REALLY want at your wedding, but are hesitating because of cost?
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  • There a few things that I want but I am not getting because of cost. Most of them (a photobooth? a videographer?) I wanted, checked out cost, decided no, and was ok with it. But the one thing I keep thinking about is restoring my grandma's ring.

    My mom's mom passed away when she (mom) was 21, and she left my mom some rings. It just happens that there are three rings with stones, and my mom has three daughters. When I got engaged my mom let me choose one of the rings, and I chose a ring with dark blue stones. My mom wasn't sure if it was real sapphires or not, but when I took it in to be appraised I was told they are. The ring is old and worn, and one of the stones is missing. When I sent it away to see how much restoration would cost, they told me it would be $550.

    I SO badly want this ring restored, because it is beautiful and because of sentimental reasons. Even though I never met my grandma, I have always felt like she is there - probably because of how spiritual my mom is. Anytime one of us is having a hard time, that is who my mom "prays" to, to ask her to be with us. I guess I have kind of picked that up from her because while I am not religious, I do sometimes "pray" in a way, but always to her. I want to wear the ring on my right hand as my something old and something blue. 

    FI is supportive of me getting the ring restored, but honestly I just can't afford it. It would mean taking a month or so off of making credit card/line of credit payments (besides the minimum payments, of course), and I just can't justify prolonging my debt for a ring that I don't need :( I am hoping something happens between now and the wedding that will make me feel like I can afford to get the ring restored!
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  • That is such a sweet story! I really hope you can find a way to have it restored before the wedding- it could be your something blue if you decided to wear it. 
    And after reading such a sentimental story, I feel silly for saying something as simple as flowers. I picked a very talented and well known florist, which I am very excited about, but it means we are limited in how much I can use her for. I would really love larger centerpieces with more flowers than what we agreed on earlier, but it will be too much money to do a whole lot more that what we have now!
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  • I don't know actually. I'm usually content with what I can only have. Maybe a candy bar?? 
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  • I don't think there is much that I am hesitating on cost except for full bar for the whole night but that's about it.  I have found ways to get everything I want within my budget. 

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  • Rebis, that sounds like a nice thing to do. I think you should do it once you have the money for it. In the meantime you could still include the ring at your wedding- maybe put it in the flowers or wear it as a necklace? 
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  • Nati05Nati05 member
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    That is a beautiful story! I'm so sorry it's more difficult than you had hoped! Hopefully you can find a way to get it restored!

    I wanted a wedding with a large guest list, but we can't afford it. My family is huge and I'd love for all of them to be here but many of them can't come and we can't afford too many people anyway. And even if we did get married in the US the guest list would be enormous and it would be IMPOSSIBLE for us to afford.

    ETA: Mekiakoo's suggestions sounds wonderful! See if there's any other way you can use your grandmother's rings!
  • If I had the money all the flowers at the wedding would be purple calla lillies! I am obsessed with them, but they are really expensive, so I'll have a few in my bouquet but thats it.

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  • Photobooth& transportation. In the beginning i wanted a limo but scatched it off the list after looking at the cost. I refuse to pay someone 1000.00+  to drive me 5-10 miles then sit the rest  of the time.

  • If my fiance doesn't get more work soon then there will probably be a bunch of things we'll need to cut back on like our flowers, favors, a limo, and our honeymoon. I'm just praying that his income tax return is huge and is enough to cover all the stuff we want to do. Other than that I would love to do an open bar or candy bar, but those probably won't happen.

    Rebis - That is such a great story you should definitely get the ring redone when you can or at least use it in some way on your wedding day. Pin it to your bouquet or on the inside of your dress. :)
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  • I would definitely have a bigger wedding..I know 185 people is A LOT! But I would invite more people and I would have uplighting...

    Rebis!!! (I still want to call you your old name btw...haha).  Honestly, the ring is very sentimental and it would be something that I would be willing to cut back on some things in order to get it fixed.  Have you shopped around??

    I wouldn't put it on a necklace because that could fall off or get caught on something and you not realize that it is there...
  • A photobooth. But I'm not paying 3000. My photography is only 1100 so no freaking way am I paying more than double for a machine to take pictures.

    I REALLY wish we would've stuck with a DW though.
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  • Maybe a larger guest list but to be honest I'm still very happy with everything thus far. My Fi and I invited all the MUST haves that we could afford, sounds horrible but anyone else we invited would be a bonus.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_qotd-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:f25870e1-bb81-4e1a-8f6b-d4dff239420cPost:120dc4c3-7d11-496b-89e0-2b28cc9fac90">Re: QOTD</a>:
    [QUOTE] I REALLY wish we would've stuck with a DW though.
    Posted by avsfan33[/QUOTE]

    I am actually SO with you on the Destination Wedding thing.

    <strong>What is one thing you REALLY want at your wedding, but are hesitating because of cost?

    </strong>An evening wedding. I wanted a typical night reception - but because the minimum for a Saturday night at our venue was 8,000 - but only 2,500 for a Saturday afternooon..we went Saturday afternoon. I'm fine with it - I'm not a big night life kind of girl anyway - but it would have been nice.
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  • Rebis58Rebis58 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_qotd-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:f25870e1-bb81-4e1a-8f6b-d4dff239420cPost:0c383cd5-a03c-491e-832d-83abd3a47257">Re: QOTD</a>:
    [QUOTE]If my fiance doesn't get more work soon then there will probably be a bunch of things we'll need to cut back on like our flowers, favors, a limo, and our honeymoon. I'm just praying that his income tax return is huge and is enough to cover all the stuff we want to do. Other than that I would love to do an open bar or candy bar, but those probably won't happen. Rebis - That is such a great story you should definitely get the ring redone when you can or at least use it in some way on your wedding day. Pin it to your bouquet or<strong> on the inside of your dress</strong>. :)
    Posted by singing_lyn[/QUOTE]

    <div>I've thought of doing this - unfortunately the ring is... for lack of a better word, ugly right now. It will be beautiful, but right now it looks very old, one stone is missing, the claws are worn down, I don't know the right word but the gold is tarnished or discoloured. I wouldn't want to wear it on a necklace, or anywhere else visible, and I am terrified of losing it so pinning it to my bouquet is out. I was considering stitching it to the inside of my dress or my bra or something, so I will know it's there even if I can't show it off. </div><div>
    </div><div>IF I can't scrounge up the money before the wedding this is probably what I will do. I just feel too guilty using wedding/honeymoon/bill paying money to pay for it, even though FI probably would agree to it if I asked, and I have very little disposable income right now. </div><div>
    </div><div>Oh well, we all have to make tough money decisions sometimes, right? I know I'll have it one day, and I can be patient, but I would love to have it for my wedding.</div><div>
    </div><div>ETA: edited for spelling</div>
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  • Mine sounds a lot more superficial than your's, but chair covers. I'm hoping there will still be a way to do them, but right now, that's a splurge not in the budget.
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  • Oo yes that too macsine!! I realllly don't want to pay for transportation. I just find it pointless... pretty, but pointless.
  • I would love to have a videographer and a live band.
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  • Rebis, I hope that you will find the money somehow.

    There is nothing that I really want that we're not having. I sound so spoiled now. But if budget was unlimited, I'd have a cello player for the ceremony, letterpress invitations (ok, that's something I really want but can't afford) and a hotel room for our wedding night. It's very close to our home though, and Belgian weddings last forever, so we wouldn't be really using it anyway.
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  • An open bar, and a ton of flowers! I LOVE flowers so not having as many as i like does bum me out a bit.
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