Giving a choice for bridesmaid dresses

sharonda1981

So I thought I would give my bridesmaids a choice by letting everyone go online and choose one dress they liked out of 3 dresses I picked. Well big mistake. None of them likes either dress and they all have complaints. So I had to put my foot down and choose a dress. Now they are all mad at me. But hey it's my wedding and I'm not about to be stressed out over some damn bridesmaid dresses. I never should of gave them a choice. This sounds so selfish of them to be upset about the dress I choose for my wedding. Atleast I considered them and there feelings. What do you all think?

PenelopeSnuz

What do the dresses look like?  Post a link!!

topchef33

What were the complaints? The style? Color? Fabric?

Love is Bald

I sympathize with you sharonda. The dresses me and my girls fell in love with ended up not coming in the colors i wanted and they were trying to convince me to go with another color for my wedding!! Now no other dress (in their eyes) compares. Ugh.

KATERS882

I think sometimes you have to do what you have to do.  Everybody has an opinion whether you want it or not.  I think you choosing one dress is fine because of the situation.

The last two weddings I was in as a bridesmaid the bride gave the option for the girls to pick the dress or pick the style.  The 1st one was hard because no one could agree on the style and the color.  We ended up with the same dress but different colors.  The 2nd wedding she picked out like 5 styles of a dress and gave us the choice and half the bridesmaids didn't like any of the dresses so the bride decided to go with another dress with only one style.  I didn't care for any of the dresses but I didn't comment because it wasn't my wedding and I didn't want to be the problem.  Ultimately, it didn't matter to me.

Now as the Bride, I went shopping with my mom and my maid of honor and narrowed down the dress to one option. I did email the girls the options and none of them agreed on liking the same dress.  The dresses that have different styles didn't seem to look good on my maid of honor so thats why I didn't go with that type of dress. Some like it, and some think it is okay.

lkeefner

i feel really lucky right now...all my bridesmaids like the dress. i took them shopping let them try on what ever they wanted and then they chose from there. as long as the dress came in the color that i wanted i don't care what they wear as long as they are comfortable.

mbf124

I had my girls pick from a variety of dresses at Ariadress.com.  I chose the color and length, and they had about 30 dresses to choose from.  Most of them were fine with this, but one complained about the color...you'll always get someone who doesn't like what you're doing, just go with what you want! 

sharonda1981

The complaints are that the dress isn't sexy enough, or that's not going to look right on me (and they haven't even tried the dress on yet) or I'm just not feeling that dress. I have five bridesmaid and two are complaining. So I just said the majority wins. Those two have to suck it up and either accept it or not be apart of my day. I'm not going to be stressed out about this. Like I told them atleast I gave them a choice and tried to accomodate everyone, with no strapeless or short dresses. If I didn't care about how they felt I wouldn't of asked.

aperitisa

Ummmm I don't think bridesmaids dresses really need to be sexy.  But that's just me.

apintowedding

I agree, bridesmaid dresses do not have to be sexy... but if they really feel uncomfortable in them? One of my bridesmaids is much bigger than the others, so I'm concerned about how she's going to feel. Oh well!