POLL: Guests for DW

burichan

LilSwtAzyn's post made me wonder about guests and guest lisst We are getting married in Keiki Beach and it only allows for 100 people. The problem is we sat down and counted how many people will probably make it: 128. Not good. Because it's a destination wedding for us, we figured people will forgo the trip. But it might look like that's not happening. People are using it as an opportunity.My questions are: (not all will apply)1. How many people are you inviting?2. Do you expect a lot of people to not make it?3. Are you finding a lot of people are coming that you didn't expect?4. Are people inviting themselves to your wedding because it's in Hawaii? 5. Any insight you might have.

diorgrl8

1. How many people are you inviting? 402. Do you expect a lot of people to not make it? yup. but family, we're expecting to all be there 3. Are you finding a lot of people are coming that you didn't expect? yes! and vice versa...like family who "can't make it" , so frustrating. 4. Are people inviting themselves to your wedding because it's in Hawaii? YES. again....frustrating. I don't want to have to be a b*tch and say they can't come.... my mom's work friends had the nerve to invite themselves, and I've met them once!!!! i told my mom, i don't care if they go to hawaii, that's their decision, but i can't have them at the wedding...they're practically strangers to me. 5. Any insight you might have. --don't let parents invite random friends?

kaesha

1. How many people are you inviting? We invited 86.2. Do you expect a lot of people to not make it? Yes, but we also had a ton of people in the maybe category3. Are you finding a lot of people are coming that you didn't expect? Uhm, only 2 real surprises. They're coming (they live in NFLD) because they're already visiting Calgary so they figured they were in the neighbourhood! HA!4. Are people inviting themselves to your wedding because it's in Hawaii? They try. I don't feel guilty saying no.5. Any insight you might have. We ended up with 31 people, but for a while, it was looking like there would be more than 60 (which isn't good because we budgeted for 35). I think the number of people who say "Yes" declines dramatically when they actually have to pay for tickets.Belated words of wisdom - don't invite more than the venue can hold.

mcribbie

1.  200 (the boys parents wanted to do a lot of courtesy invites)2.  we were expecting the majority to not be able to make it.  just b/c of the economy and all.3.  YES!  our downfall is that we're doing it the week of thanksgiving. so people are already off a few days and are using it as your said, an opportunity for a vacation.4.  yes.  and i'm actually the worst b/c i find myself just haphazardly throwing out an invite b/c i didnt think the person would seriously consider going.  bit me in the butt that did.5.  maybe this is wishful thinking, but i say dont worry too much yet.  ironically some people that you thought for sure would come, won't.  and that leaves room for the ones that you didnt think would come.

M&M's_Maui

1. How many people are you inviting?  We sent out 200 invitations, most of those were our parents immediate families (brothers/sisters, nephews/nieces) but about 80 of them were to parents' friends2. Do you expect a lot of people to not make it?  Yup!  More than half didn't make it!3. Are you finding a lot of people are coming that you didn't expect? No, just two couples were unexpected.4. Are people inviting themselves to your wedding because it's in Hawaii? Nope!  We got lucky!  Most used the unstable economy as an excuse!

kltopacio

1. we invited 130 ppl2. we are expecting 107 ppl (confirmed rsvp)3. YES!!!!! 4. YES!!!! this annoys me!5. I had a hard time picking and choosing who to invite to the wedding and who not to.... i have a big and close set of family and friends and there are those extras that if i didn't invite would cause drama!! so this was hard for me. I think we could have only invited 90 ppl, but because i felt bad hurting ppl's feelings we ended up inviting more!

ringobubblegirl

1. How many people are you inviting?  We invited 80 people.2. Do you expect a lot of people to not make it?  Only 40 came to Hawaii.  We were expecting 60 to come, but 40 was perfect. 3. Are you finding a lot of people are coming that you didn't expect?  Nope...just one couple...friends of MIL who wanted to come because they were supposed to be in Hawaii at the time, but they found out it was a different weekend. 4. Are people inviting themselves to your wedding because it's in Hawaii?  No...but we were also having an AHR, so they didn't feel as inclined to come.5. Any insight you might have. Since airfare and lodging in Hawaii is so cheap right now, you might have more guests coming than you expected.  We had some friends that we didn't think would come, but they did.  It was great though because in the end, the people who truly love you will try to be there.  :-)