bumming about cancelling destination wedding

storuno

So I need to vent. Lat night in speaking with my finance we decided that the destination wedding was no longer an option. We could no longer make the budget work to do a wedding in Maui and have a back at home reception. Too much to pay for my parents, hotel, airfare, ours, etc. He wants to have money to enjoy a honeymoon and doing both comprimises that. We don't want to get into debt, as we just bought a new home, so I have to agree and not be selfish. My only worry is that my small intimate wedding is now going to be bigger then I wanted. I feel like I am a total bi-polar bride with going back/forth and so in a month I have done nothing!! Oh, but I have a dress. done venting. I will miss this board, and try to get excited about being in OC. st

kltopacio

I think you and FI are very good about communicating and compromising... it takes a lot to cancel such an event and that is big of you both!!! You have more things to look forward to Good luck to you both!!

jrossb

I think that it is important that you both agree! And you could look at it is the fact that the most important person is going to be there either way!!! ( your FI!!) Good luck to you!!! I am sure it will be wonderful no matter where it is. Jen

MrsNicole&Brian808

Hi there!  I'm sorry to read about canceling the DW, but it's good that both you and FI are in agreement and are thinking about what's best for your future together.Although you're having your wedding in OC, you could still have fun by adding some Hawaiian-inspired details!  That way, you have to stick around this board for a bit longer.    If you can't be in Hawaii, bring Hawaii to you!Perhaps you and FI can have a small, intimate vow renewal in Maui in a few years...don't give up on the dream!    Best wishes!

simmy89

That is such a good sign that you can discuss and come to a mutual agreement... I understand what you mean about the size then getting bigger, we are eloping and only a few very close friends and family know and are coming with us.. other friends are constantly asking when are you two going to get married.. if only they knew..