Inviting coworkers to a DW!

emptybee83

I work with approx. 15-20 women and all of them know we're heading to Hawaii for our wedding.  I'm debating whether or not to invite everyone or just invite a couple I'm close to.  How did you guys do it??What sucks about my work is that everyone talks!! So I'm not looking forward to this...i feel like it's gonna get REAL tricky!

Snarling Fox

Hmm, with a small office, that could be rather tricky. We had some of the same issues when we made out our guest list. We decided to include only co-workers that we were close enough to socialize with outside work - ie been out for dinner or drinks or visited their home. I also asked them keep quiet about it at work since it wasn't an open office invite and told them who else was coming.It's taken me a while but now when people in my office ask about the wedding (like when & where & details) Ive chalked it up to good-intentioned curiousity versus soliciting for an invitation. I've only had 2 people that have been outright annoying in soliciting for an invitation (you don't want to get me started on them - that would make for a super long post).So, I'd say stick to just inviting a few close coworkers. Good luck!

BoBride28

Aaaaah, very tricky situation indeed! Like pp, I only invited 2 co-workers that I socialize with outside of the office a lot. There are definitely a lot of people who ask me about the wedding, but its just because they are being nice and people like to talk about weddings. Also, don't worry too much because if you are having a DW, its a lot for people to shell out all that dough to come to Hawaii. Just invite those who you are close to, the rest will understand. Your reasoning if someone blatantly asks is that you are trying to keep it small. Good luck!

carrieoz_76

Yea, our cut-off is if FI has met them, they'll probably get an invite. Which is actually a way bigger group than I'd like, but they all are friends and talk, so it's hard. I just try to remember that it's a big trip, and people who don't really care that much aren't going to make the trip anyways.

ringobubblegirl

I think you could get away with only inviting the ones you are close with.  Hopefully the other women aren't catty and they should understand that ur close to the ones ur inviting.

ginajade

Do you hang out with these people outside of the office? If not, I don't think they'll be offended.  I work in a large office, but there are people that I hang out with regularly that I didn't invite -they even came to Vegas for the bachi party.  If they ask to go, then maybe think about it because they probably consider you a closer friend than your realize, but otherwise, dont' feel bad about it.  People understand that you can't invite everyone and like pp, when people ask you about the wedding, they are just genuinely curious.